10 Worst Tips To Give A Speaker

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10 Worst Tips To Give A Speaker

By: Alan Matthews

1.) Learn the speech by heart or read it from a script.

This is meant to be a way of making sure you don't forget what you're going to say. Instead, it's usually a way of making sure you don't connect with your audience.

Most people who use a script end up reading it out and, unless you're a professional actor or a very experienced speaker, this will come across as unnatural and stilted and it will stop you looking at your audience.

If you try to memorise a script, you may find you are under even more pressure to remember what you want to say because, if you go off the script, there's no way back.

It's better to prepare some notes which can be a guide should you need one. By the time you've prepared the speech, you will know the main areas you want to cover. Put these down as headings on paper or cards in LARGE PRINT so you can see them when you're standing up. You may then only need a couple of key words to add to these to remind you of the main points you want to make in each area.

If you need more than this, you may be trying to cover too much information. You may also think of a couple of really good ways of saying something, or a good story to use to illustrate a point. Jot these down so you don't forget.

2.) Rehearse in front of a mirror.

This may be a bit controversial because I know several books and trainers give this tip. All I can say is I have never found I could do this.

I do rehearse ( sometimes ) and sometimes I tape myself to hear what it sounds like. But I can't watch myself in a mirror and think about what I'm saying, it's just too distracting. If you want to see what you look like, ask someone to watch you or use a video camera. However, don't get bogged down with worrying about how you look.

The main purpose of rehearsing is to reinforce the talk in your memory, check how long it takes and help you spot those areas where what you want to say doesn't sound right or where you might get confused. Then you can think of some effective phrases to use to help get your point across. You can do this without a mirror.

3.) Use plenty of slides.

This is sometimes offered as a'tip'for taking attention from yourself. Give the audience something else to look at. Another tip is to give them a hefty handout at the start so they have something to read.

The problem is - YOU should be the centre of attention. People want to hear what you've got to say and the best way to communicate your message is by speaking effectively. By all means use visual aids if they will help but they should complement what you're saying, not just reproduce your own notes.

Similarly with handouts, they can be very helpful but you need to know why you are using them. If they have backup information, give them out at the end. If they contain some key ideas you want to refer to as you go along, give them out at the start, but make sure they don't distract people from what you are saying.

Let's be honest - if you're that concerned about getting out of the spotlight, you shouldn't be doing this in the first place.

4.) Wear a cartoon tie to show you have a sense of humour.

This is linked to a couple of the other'tips'which are meant to give you a helping hand in getting the audience on your side. Wearing a funny tie is saying " Look, I'm really a nice guy. Give me a chance. "

I won't go into detail here for fear of alienating all of you who might, even now, be wearing such attire, but I have to say, that's NOT what most people think when they see someone wearing a cartoon tie.

In terms of dress, wear something you feel comfortable in and which seems appropriate. That's a bit vague, but it depends on your audience. The usual approach is to dress slightly smarter than you expect the audience to dress. Too much of a difference between you and them can cause problems with credibility. Just think about the impression you want to give and, in general, avoid anything which could be a distraction.

Incidentally, I really don't know what the female equivalent of the cartoon tie would be. Any suggestions?

5.) Start off with a joke.

This is a bit like the previous'tip '. Break the ice, show what a good sense of humour you have, get them on your side.

Please don't do this. Not unless you're a good joke - teller and this joke is absolutely guaranteed to get a laugh. And, even then, only if it's appropriate in some way. One of the best ways to kill your chances from the start is to begin with a joke which has nothing to do with your subject and watch it flop. Believe me, you'll wish you were somewhere else and your audience will too.

Use humour if you can. It will help get your message across and it will get the audience on your side, but be careful with it. You can use stories, things that have happened to you or to other people which relate to your talk. Being a bit self - deprecating can be a good way to gain an audience's trust but don't overdo it. If in doubt, leave it out.

6.) Tell them you're nervous to get them on your side.

Like some of the others, this is a plea for support to the audience. You know most people hate the idea of speaking in public, so you appeal to their sympathy by telling them how bad you feel. Another approach is to apologise - " I don't know why I was asked to do this. I've never done this sort of thing before. "

This NEVER works.

One thing you can generally be sure of is that, at the start of a talk, your audience will want you to succeed. You should remember this when you feel nervous. They will give you a chance to do well and they will mainly be prepared to listen ( and they will probably be really glad it's not them doing it ).

But they are also expecting something in return for the time they are giving up. If you start suggesting that, in some way, this is going to be a lousy speech, they'll believe you. And they'll switch off. You will have lost any sympathy they had.

To get over your nerves at the start, have a clear and positive opening worked out. This is one part of the speech you can memorise to get you through the first few moments. Just tell them who you are, what you are talking about and what they will gain from listening. Then get on with it.

7.) Stand still and don't move your hands about.

A lot of people who are inexperienced at public speaking try their utmost to stop themselves moving about. They seem to have some fear that their bodies will go out of control and they'll do something totally ridiculous or embarrassing. So they try to keep absolutely still, often by holding onto a lectern like the survivor of a shipwreck clinging to a piece of driftwood on the ocean.

The best way to make contact with an audience and to keep their attention is to behave as if you are speaking to them in a normal conversation. So you move about, you use gestures, you look at them. When speakers try to stop themselves doing these things, they become unnatural, distant from the audience.

So don't get too hung up about any mannerisms you think you may have. It's usually better to look natural than to try to deliver a talk as though from a straightjacket. Just avoid some obvious distractions, like playing with something in your hands, pushing your hands in your pockets and juggling your change( a male thing ), shifting back and forth on one leg. But, if what you are saying is interesting, people will listen.

8.) Stare over the heads of the audience.

This is a way of pretending to establish eye contact without really doing so, because some people feel awkward about it. They don't really want to look at the audience. The idea is that, if you look out over their heads, they will think you are looking at them.

Actually, they won't. They'll think " Why is this person looking over my head? ".

To my mind, the key factor in gaining an audience's attention and keeping it ( apart from the fascinating content of your talk ) is eye contact. If you were talking to someone who never looked at you, what would you think?

Chances are you'd think " This person isn't interested in me. He's not listening. " Or, if the person was speaking but not looking at you, you may think they were a bit shifty, perhaps dishonest. In any event, you wouldn't find it a pleasant experience.

The same goes for speaking in public. If I am in an audience and the speaker doesn't look at me, I can't feel that person is interested in me or whether I am listening. So I stop listening. On the other hand, if the speaker makes a point of keeping eye contact with me, it gives me the feeling that he cares about making some connection with me and I'll feel less inclined to switch off.

So look at them while you speak, keep your eyes moving around the room so you engage everyone there. If it's a very big audience, you can look at a section at a time but, with a small audience, you will need to look at individuals. Not for too long, but glance at everyone as you speak so no - one feels left out.

9.) Imagine the audience naked.

This is supposed to be another way to deal with nerves. I have actually seen it in guides to presentations.

The best answer to this is one I found in the book " Successful Presentations for Dummies " by Malcolm Kushner: IDG Books. He says there is probably half the audience who you wouldn't mind seeing naked. The other half you certainly would never want to see naked. Either way, it's not a calming thought.

Another'tip'I have come across is to pretend the audience isn't there. This probably works in a way because I can guarantee, if you pretend the audience isn't there, pretty soon it won't be.

I mentioned eye contact above. You can't just ignore the people out there and expect your talk to have any impact. There are lots of ways to tackle nerves but they come under 3 categories:

  • preparation, think through what could go wrong and prepare for it, know your subject and be clear about why you are giving the talk, also keep things in perspective - what's the worst than can happen? You're not performing brain surgery.
  • relaxation or deep breathing exercises.
  • positive self - talk, visualise the talk going really well, tell yourself it will be a success, know that you have prepared and that you can do this and stop yourself when you start to think it will all be a disaster.

Above all, remember that everyone gets nervous when they have to speak in public. If you don't feel nervous, you should ask someone to check your pulse. The nerves themselves are not the problem. You can carry on and give a great talk even though you feel nervous at the start.

10.) Have a drink beforehand to calm your nerves.

No, no, no. Alcohol and nerves are a lethal combination. Have you ever sat through a Best Man's speech at a wedding? Then you'll know what I mean. Don't do it.

Incidentally, if you want to have a glass of water at hand in case your mouth gets dry - use still not sparkling. Belching into a microphone is not to be recommended.

There you are - the top 10 things to avoid when speaking in public. Keep away from these, follow my simple rules, and you won't go far wrong.

Good luck.

About The Author

Alan Matthews is an experienced trainer, coach and speaker and author of " Do You Come Here Often? How To Get More Clients By Successful Networking " and " Secrets Of A Professional Speaker " as well as numerous articles and reports, available from http://www.trainofthought.org.uk.


alan@trainofthought.org.uk

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yahoo211 17.06.2013. 04:47

How to build a transistor amplifier? I need to design an amplifier that amplifies AC signals only. And the total amplifier gain should be 26, using either one or two common emitter BJT amplifier.

Is there any ideas how to approach the design procedure? Any tips or suggestions, ideas in terms of determining the resistor values? Thanks for the help.

yahoo211

Admin 17.06.2013. 04:47

Assume standard degerative BJT topology, single supply rail, NPN polarity, single-ended input, low impedance source, and voice-range audio frequencies. It won't drive a speaker well and won't work with most microphone inputs. But you could hook it up between a microphone pre-amp and an output amplifier, like a PC speaker system perhaps. Gain, Av=26. I'll assume a 9V battery (design for as little as 7.5V) (You really should learn to specify your intent better.) Given all that, let's give it a go.

The first thing I care about is the power supply rail value. You don't say. So I get to pick it. I'm going to say this is a 9V battery system that needs to operate down to 7.5V, just to complicate things. (9V batteries don't hold 9V for long.)

The next thing to worry about is the quiescent current. You don't say. The output impedance sets this. But since you don't specify it, I get to pick. Since most small signal BJTs work "really good" somewhere in the range of a few hundred ?A up towards maybe 10mA or so, I'll just toss a dart and pick 2mA as the quiescent current level. A 9V battery will be able to handle that.

Now I get to work out the division of supply voltage between signal, Vce of the BJT, and the DC emitter voltage.

Because a BJT works fairly well when Vce is at least 2V to stay sufficiently out of saturation, I set Vcemin=2V. Given the worst case of 7.5V at the battery, this leaves me 5.5V to play with, worst case. I also need about 1V at the emitter to avoid most of the temperature drift of gain. Let's make it 1.5V just to be even better. So this leaves only 4V for the signal output range. Half of that is 2V, so the quiescent collector voltage will be centered at 1.5V + 2V + 2V, or 5.5V. The quiescent DC emitter voltage will be 1.5V. Given that I want the base to be 0.7V (which is about right for 2mA quiescent collector current) above the emitter, this means the base voltage is designed for 2.2V.

The collector resistor, Rc, should be (7.5V-5.5V) ? 2mA or about 1000?. So Rc=1000?. For a settable gain of near 26, you can't just bypass the emitter resistor with a capacitor. You need to have an emitter resistor (DC set point resistor, call it Re?) that is bypassed by another capacitor+resistor (call them Re? and Ce?.) Re?=(1.5V) ? 2mA or about 750Ohms. Ce? needs to basically act as a short at the lowest frequency of interest. Rather than computing anything, call it 100?F, which is probably too big but I don't care right now. Your problem if you want to make it smaller. That leaves Re?, which to produce a gain of about 26 should be (1000?) ? 26 ? 39?. So Re?=39?. (The gain will be a little less than 26, which I'm sure is fine.)

To keep the variations on quiescent current within reasonable bounds, let's assume a maximum signal figure that would cause 2mA 1mA at the BJT collector. With Rc=1000?, this means the signal output at the collector will be 5.5V 1V. At a gain of 26, this means the input signal must be no more than 38mV or so. You don't say this is wrong, so let's round it up to a max signal input specification of 50mV.

The biasing pair at the base should yield a base voltage of 1.5V+0.7V, or 2.2V. But you need to make it "stiff" enough so that fluctuations in base current don't significantly move this around. Assuming ? ? 200, the quiescent base current will be 10?A. But given 50mV input signal levels at low impedance, this could be as high as 16.5?A. Typically, you want the base pair to operate with about 10 times this peak value, so 165?A might be a good figure. If so, then the base-to-ground resistor, R?, will be R?=(2.2V) ? (165?A) ? 13.3k?. Not a standard value. So hold on that. R?, the base-to-supply resistor must not only supply the 165?A, but also the quiescent 10?A, so R?=(7.5V-2.2V) ? (165?A+10?A) ? 30k?. If I reduce R? to a standard 12k?, this would reduce R? to a standard 27k?. So R?=12k? and R?=27k?.

Input impedance is about 8.3k?. Assume you need a capacitor to feed the BJT base. Call it C?. Set it to something under 100?F, maybe 10?F. The main thing there is that the impedance of this capacitor be very much smaller than the 8.3k? value. So C?=10?F should be okay, mostly. The reason that Ce? is so much larger is that it must be small compared to the Re?=39? value. And even 100?F might not be enough if you want to accept 100Hz, for example. So you need to work out these details.

Anyway, if you cobble this up it should work pretty closely as designed. Also, if you want to stiffen up the input a bit (work with higher impedance signal sources), you may want to bootstrap it with another resistor and capacitor. But that is for another time.

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DW from FL 02.09.2011. 17:05

How to learn to play electric guitar better? My 27 year old son just bought his first electric guitar, he's had acoustic guitars before. He lives out in a rural area and doesn't know anyone to teach him or practice with. How can he connect with other people with the same interest? Or is there instructional videos or CD's?

DW from FL

Admin 02.09.2011. 17:05

Hello there,

Connect? Well, given his situation, he is not likely to physically connect with other players. So, he should consider on-line types of connections. One thing I can suggest is that he joins some of the on-line forums. There are many guitar specific forums and discussion boards. In all of those I belong to, less experienced players seeking advice are always welcome. Reading their questions and seeing their thoughts about things, helps old geezers like me keep in touch with younger players.
Here are some of my favorite forums
Surf Guitar 101.
http://surfguitar101.com/
Fender Guitar forum Strat-Talk
http://www.strat-talk.com/
Ultimate Guitar forum
http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/ind?
Telecaster.com forum
http://www.tdpri.com/
Line 6 Community
http://line6.com/support/index.jspa

As you can probably guess from those forums, I am an old time surf guitar player and play mostly Fender guitars and amps. There are forums for about every conceivable niche of music. Just do a Google search for a forum in the type of music or guitar that interests him the most. Most of the forums do not require you to be a member to read the messages there, just to post messages. So, he can browse around the forum to see if it is on interest to him. You get to know guys there that you will never be able to physically meet. Sometimes, you wish you could meet up with them. A lot a great guys there.

Instructional materials? Frankly there is no substitute for lessons from a teaching pro. But not everyone has access to one. As a kid, I did not. There was no one around where I grew up who taught rock guitar (rural Indiana in the 1950s). I learned by any way I could. Listened to songs. If I could find a book about the guitar I got it. I played with anyone I could. Older kids who play (who also had never had lessons) would give me tips and show me how to do various techniques. I figure those guys unwittingly taught me every bad habit and improper technique they knew. Took me years to get straightened out. Today there are a lot of decent resources on-line.

Here is a link to the 1st in a series of 12 video lessons. These are targeted at absolute beginners and cover the basics of the electric guitar pretty well. Good place to start. Gets him a foundation in the basics. He can ignore the part in the video where that guy says he will send out the lessons. They are all on Youtube now. He used to email them to you individually.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxhxIV0I5?

Download this chord chart to your computer. It is a handy way to look up how to play any chord.
http://www.tabguitarlessons.com/download?

He needs to learn to read tabs. Tabs is a shorthand method of writing guitar music and is commonly used these days. Fortunately it is quick and easy to learn. Here is an article explaining tabs.
http://www.howtotuneaguitar.org/lessons/?

When he wants to learn some particular song, do a Google search for the song title and the word tabs. That will give you the sites that have the tabs for that song. Then go to Youtube and do a search there using the title of the song and the word lesson or the words how to play. There are a lot of good instructional videos there. (and a lot of worthless ones because they do not really teach anything).

Also for new techniques he wants to learn, search at Youtube. For example say he wants to learn to sweep pick for playing metal. You will find a video like this one.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Aj2wx9PY?

Also there are some good videos from know guitar players there. Joe Satriani has a lot of great videos and he is a great teacher.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNDyI5b3F?
Paul Gilbert, Michael Angelo Batio and Yngwie Malsteen have videos there also (as examples).

One other piece of advice is get a decent amp and speaker. I do not like the small practice amps (10 to 20 watts of power and a 6 or 8 inch speaker). The speaker in those make you sound thin and tinny. They do not have enough power to handle gain and distortion so they run out of head room. Any 1x12 combo amp is a good beginner amp. If you buy a used one, a used 1x12 combo sells for about the price of a new small practice amp. The 12 inch speaker will give a richer fuller tone. An amp with built in effects is a good idea for beginners because it saves the cost of buying effects pedals. A good beginner amp is the Fender Mustang II 40 watt 1x12 combo digital modeling amp. It is very versatile.

Later,

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Joel 12.06.2013. 08:10

Aftermarket Head Unit Replacement no longer plays through Amped speakers in 99 Mitsubishi Lancer? I recently bought a Pioneer DEH-155MPG head unit to replace my old DEH-1650 in order to have a aux input. My car is a 99 Mitsubishi Lancer and I bought it used. The previous owner had put in an amplifier and 2 upgraded speakers at the back. The stock door speakers were left intact, but never really played any sound. If I changed the fade to full front, it wouldn't get any louder, the back ones would just go off. The weird thing was that the front speakers were in fact on, but suuppper quite, barely audible. So obviously, I was pretty only listening to the back good ones all the time.

When I pulled out my old pioneer head unit to replace it, I connected all the wires back up and the stereo wouldn't turn on, my car idled poorly and erradically (both high and low, which was never normal), and I lost power to dome lights, cig. lighter, and dash clock. Eventually found out 2 fuses had blown for unknown reasons (yes I connected the ground wire first).

After replacing the fuses, I tried connecting the head unit to power again and it fired up nicely. The complicated part is that the amp had 2 front and 2 rear RCA cables running to the head unit. The wires directly from the car for the front speakers had been soldered directly into the front rca left and right cables (thereby never even coming into contact with the head unit.. which made no sense to me, and doesn't explain why those front speakers played from an amp input).

I cut those and wired the car front speaker wires into the head unit instead, and left the front cable disconnected and ends covered in electrical tape. I wired the back speakers from the car wires into the head unit as they should normally be and as they were for the previous unit. In addition the RCA amp input for the rear speakers I plugged into the RCA jacks on the back of the head unit (also as previously done)

So, now I do have a functional head unit and it plays through my front stock speakers (which it had never done), but wiring all the back speakers as they had been done previously, and correctly, resulted in the back speakers no longer working.

I have no idea what to do after working 2 days on this. Things I've done:
- checked all fuses (car, head unit, and amp)
- checked wire connections were correct between car wires and head unit.
- checked there is power both to the amp and to the rear speakers, but receiving no sound signal from the head unit.
- check on head unit settings that balance and fade weren't off
- checked the system remote control connection between head unit and amp was intact

So... I'm exhausted, discouraged, and really not wanting to pay an installer a 100 bucks to fix this last tiny problem after I did all the setup when i could have paid him to do it all in its entirety right off the bat.

I would sincerely be grateful for any suggestions, tips, advice
Thank you so much!

Joel

Admin 12.06.2013. 08:10

the best thing to do in this situation, is to either A. get a 3 dollar test light and trace all the wires to make sure they have good connectivity and to make sure you know wich wire is what and where it goes. it sounds like whoever had the car before did not buy the wiring kit for 10 dollars wich makes it a billion times easier to install a new deck. and alot of times in that situation, the stock wires , specifically the grounds for the speaker leads are sometimes shared wires. so yeah, re trace everything and make sure its all wired properly, with the test light. or B. if the deck has amp pre outs for subs and components(would be 6 rca plugs in the back) get a 4 channel amp and run your component speakers off of it. wich is really the best way. or C. go buy a 50ft roll of 12 guage wire and just run all brand new wire for the components from the deck. as far as the car running poorly, as dude said, sometimes they have to re learn their fuel mixtures, the only way a bad install of a deck could rly mess with the way the car runs is if its shorting out somewhere. um, the dome light issue and i assume like the dash lihts and all that, is simply one of those wires down in there needs power. the easy way is just to guees and check, but if u dont wanna chance blowing fuses, u will have to trace to the fusebox to see witch it is.

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websurfer59 19.09.2010. 14:09

How can I not get nervous when presenting in front of classmates? I'm going to have to be presenting in a few of my classes this year, but I absolutely hate getting in front of my classmates to present a powerpoint/project etc. I always shake, stutter and I blank out on my information even though I keep trying to tell myself that none of my classmates really care about my presentation. How can I make presenting easier? Is there a way that I can not get nervous in front of a crowd without first "getting used to presenting"? Any advice helps, thanks everyone.

websurfer59

Admin 19.09.2010. 14:09

(FROM YAHOO! ANSWERS):
I am really good at public speaking. I have tons of tips for you! Hope I helped!

1) Be prepared. If you know what you're going to say perfectly, then you won't feel as nervous.
2) Focus only on a certain friend in the audience. It feels better talking to a buddy.
3) Practice in front of a mirror, to see how you will look. That way, you won't worry about that when you're up.
4) Imagine yourself as a great speaker-the best in the whole group! Be confident that you are a great speaker, and that will show when you speak.
5) If you mess up, nothing will be as bad as it seems. Think about it? How badly can you possibly mess up? Everyone else is probably too nervous too, so they're not going to be paying complete attention to you anyways.
6) GO FIRST! You probably think that's crazy, and that going last is best, but trust me, first is best. First of all, you get it over with, and you can relax. Also, if someone really good goes before you, you'll feel awckward trying to follow an act like that. Lastly, no one will talk about you negatively, because no one else has went, and they don't know what good and bad is yet. If you screw up, they won't even remember, since it was so long ago that you went.
7) Take a nice, long breath. Calm your nerves down a bit.
8) Be funny. That way, it will ease your tension a bit, and the crowd will be on your side.
9) Don't be embarrased. Everyone is doing it. Actually, be fun and creative instead. You'll do great.
10) Googe some tips to help stage fright.

(ALSO FROM: Yahoo! Answers): Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.

Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. Good Luck!

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Himanshu Gogoi 13.04.2013. 15:02

What is the chance of having a full recovery in case of paralysis due to stroke? My mother is 65 years old.Recently she suffered a stroke out of high B.P. and the right side of her body is paralyzed.The doctor said after the C.T. scan that there was a brain haemorrhage and a clot of blood on the left side and an operation might be there.So she was kept under observation.As the clot remained the same for about a 5-6 days confirmed from the successive C.T. scans the doctor said it's not required to perform an operation.Now she has been discharged from the hospital and the doctor prescribed medicines to nullify the clot of blood.She can't move her right arm and the right leg.Also,she can't speak clearly.It's been about 13 days now.But we could see a little change of hers.So,what about her full recovery and how much time it will take to recover ?Your suggestions are appreciated.

Himanshu Gogoi

Admin 13.04.2013. 15:02

Haven't they prescribed any rehabilitation for her?

She will improve gradually. But the nerves to the right side are affected, so her brain can't fully control that side of her body. This is why she has limited movement.

She may never 100% recover, but with help from her family she can get back good use of her right side, so she's not totally dependent on others for getting around. We can't put a time on it over the internet. But don't give up hope, there is a lot you can do to hasten her recovery.

As the brain injury slowly heals, some of the nerve pathways will improve. But by then the muscles will be weakened by lack of use. So you need to start her exercising. Family members can take it in turns to help.

IF she really can't move the arm or leg at all, someone else will have to move them for her. Bending and stretching. Bend the wrist and fingers separately, too. Make up your own movements but do them each about 10 times per session. Later see if she can use hand or feet to push against something. Pushing is easier than bending, and will still keep the muscles from shriveling.

IF she can stand up, get her a walking frame with wheels. They're called "rollator" and only cost around $100. At first maybe she can only stand up with it, getting the paralysed arm to take her weight on the handle. If she can manager that, she can try taking a few steps. (If the arm is really bad, get a walking frame with gutters for the arms to lie in, instead of handles).

Mouth exercises could include trying to hold a straw or pencil with that side of the mouth (start with thicker bundles of them), and massaging that side of the face (upward movements). Also opening the mouth as wide as possible, then closing and trying to grin. Good chewing might take a while, so give her softer food, to make sure she doesn't end up undernourished out of inability to chew. Chewing GUM is a good exercise .

Not talking clearly is very frustrating for the speaker, as they can't make themselves understood. Try to guess, so she can answers yes or no. Also encourage her to use her good hand to support the bad side of the mouth, when talking, so at least the closed-lips sounds will come out better.

Once she starts getting good movement, especially for the arm, for a few hours every day tie up her good arm. People will even do this to themselves. It forces the use of the bad arm and halves the recovery time.

From you name, I assume you are in India?? I don't know what services you can get there, but do look around, ask at the hospital, for what rehabilitation they have. And if you can afford it. There may be some self-help group for stroke victims or their families, who can give you more tips from their experience.

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sudhir 31.03.2013. 13:10

Tips and advice on car sub woofer and sizes to make me build my perfect car audio system? Hello everyone, i need some help on my car audio upgrade. i'm about to install polk db components and db coaxial speakers for my car. i'm also interested in installing sub woofers as well. Well this is where i need some guidance. I want a very clear sound out of my car's audio system,like i don't want the sound to distort because of the sub woofer...I don't want my car to be too punchy or boomy or to thump.i just need a very clear sound with a very good amount of bass which is not too loud to listen and enjoy... So what sub woofer size would be appropriate for my taste, either 8" 10" or 12"... and can i run all these with a 4 channel amp? And since i look for tonal equality from my audio system should i buy the sub woofers from the same manufacturer as i've bought my speakers. Does it make any difference? Please throw in some light, i need some help here. Thank you...All the best and take care ya' all !

sudhir

Admin 31.03.2013. 13:10

when it comes to clarity you get what you pay for and the size it depends on how many watts you are putting out i had a 600 watt on a 12 inch kicker comp in my crew cab truck and it sounded good but you can also get good sound from a 10 and you can have a bad ass system that will shake your car apart and all you need is a head-unit that you can turn the bass down and get that nice sounding bass that you want i mean but if you are just looking for good sound a 12 with 600 watts would be just fine

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Lisa F 10.11.2007. 02:02

I get really, really nervous when I speak in front of other people, and I'm often very quiet. How can I Change I really don't want or like to be so nervous, but I can't help it. Whenever I speak to a group my heart races and I can hear my pulse in my ears. Sometimes my voice will be a little shaky or will cut out in mid word/sentence. I didn't use to be like that either. I used to be pretty talkative and more social, and less nervous. I just want to be like that again. Any advice? Please help.

Lisa F

Admin 10.11.2007. 02:02

I am really good at public speaking. I have tons of tips for you! Hope I helped!

1) Be prepared. If you know what you're going to say perfectly, then you won't feel as nervous.
2) Focus only on a certain friend in the audience. It feels better talking to a buddy.
3) Practice in front of a mirror, to see how you will look. That way, you won't worry about that when you're up.
4) Imagine yourself as a great speaker-the best in the whole group! Be confident that you are a great speaker, and that will show when you speak.
5) If you mess up, nothing will be as bad as it seems. Think about it? How badly can you possibly mess up? Everyone else is probably too nervous too, so they're not going to be paying complete attention to you anyways.
6) GO FIRST! You probably think that's crazy, and that going last is best, but trust me, first is best. First of all, you get it over with, and you can relax. Also, if someone really good goes before you, you'll feel awckward trying to follow an act like that. Lastly, no one will talk about you negatively, because no one else has went, and they don't know what good and bad is yet. If you screw up, they won't even remember, since it was so long ago that you went.
7) Take a nice, long breath. Calm your nerves down a bit.
8) Be funny. That way, it will ease your tension a bit, and the crowd will be on your side.
9) Don't be embarrased. Everyone is doing it. Actually, be fun and creative instead. You'll do great.
10) Googe some tips to help stage fright.


GOOD LUCK!

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GG 13.04.2013. 03:01

What should I do to make my car more bad ass? my car is a 2011 Dark Blue Ford Mustang V6. I know it does not impress anybody being a V6 but I want to beef it up a lot. If you can tell me what I should do, what parts to buy, and how much. Also I plan on getting racing stripes! thanks

GG

Admin 13.04.2013. 03:01

I'm not really a mustang guy but I think I can help you out. First of all, you want to be heard. So go to your closest muffler shop and have the guy build you a 3 inch dual exhaust. ( if you can afford all stainless, do it) if not just get chrome tips. Make sure each pipe has a glaspac on it. If you like it quiet and deep then put the glaspac on as is. If you like it loud and intimidating, dump a little oil in the glaspacs, get them welded on and stomp on it. Burn it right up and you've got a loud exhaust.

Then a sound system. If you like rap and hip hop get dual 15 inch subs in the trunk with a 1400 watt amp/equalizer. The speakers in the car need to be replaced too. Along with the deck. If you like rock and roll, all you need is a 10" sub in the trunk and you'll get that good bass guitar sound. And the brand I recommend is pioneer or alpine. They have always been awesome speakers for me. If you want a good deal on speakers and all sorts of the greatest customer support in the world, I recommend www.crutchfield.com. They are a good place to buy from.

Next, you need rims. Don't get matte black wheels. You need either chrome, or chrome with a black lip. Black ice wheels company have some good ones. Go to www.bigbrandwheels.com, they are pretty inexpensive too.

Now we address the engine. It is just a 6. But if you turbo charge that baby it will blow away select V8's. turbo charging adds at least 50% more horsepower and quite a bit of torque.

Make sure your windows are tinted to 25%. That is the best way to do it, no more no less.

And last of all, just make it yours. Have fun with it. If you want fuzzy dice on the mirror, put some on the mirror. Get a custom shift knob, get cool looking floor mats, reupholster the seats to your custom needs. Whatever. My small list here is what I would do. But do whatever is fun for you. This is all a bit pricy, especially making it turbo. But if you can't afford it, look for cheaper alternatives, like a horsepower chip, or racing pistons. Whatever you do you should love it. And definitely do the exhaust. The duals make it look and sound unbelievable. And it should be under a$1000 for that. Hope this helps, and enjoy your mustang.

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Tiger L 01.09.2007. 19:47

Should I buy an American car or a Japanese car? Are the parts for a Japanese car more expensive? Thank you in advance for any help.

Tiger L

Admin 01.09.2007. 19:47

Buy a japanese car. American cars get cheaper faster, most are made of low quality. Get a nissan sentra spec v or honda civic ex. They are more efficient, decrease in price slower and last longer.
DO NOT rice it please.If you want to modify it, modify the engine. If you want a good exhaust, get a dual or quad exhaust setup.
If you want brake calipers disk rotors etc, get brembo. if you want tires (rubber) get pirelli.

What ricing is:
Ricing a vehicle is meant to emulate the aesthetic work of independent automotive car tuning companies who modify more than just appearance, and to give an appearance of greater ability than the car actually has. Ricing is generally looked down upon amongst people who perform engine tuning and other performance racing modifications.

Common aftermarket modifications in this style can include but are not limited to:

Body modifications
Aerodynamic-seeming or creatively-designed body kits, often with little function
Wings and spoilers that serve no useful function (especially if the car is front wheel drive), possibly increasing drag and decreasing traction.
Carbon fiber hoods (sometimes fiberglass replicas made to look like carbon fiber, or just decorative self adhesive plastic with carbon fiber look)
Non-functional hood scoops and roof scoops.
Excessively large wheels ("rims") (for example chromed, or "dubs", as well as spinners) that often decrease acceleration due to higher rotational inertia. Handling is also often made worse by the extra unsprung weight.
Improperly lowered suspension, such as stock springs shortened by heating or cutting or from getting improper alignment resulting in excessive negative camber.
Bumper canards fitted to the front bumper.
Aesthetics
Bright paint or interior, frequently in contrasting colors
Decals and stickers for aftermarket parts not actually present on the vehicle. A common joke is that every decal "adds 10 horsepower" to the car.
Badging from other higher-performance vehicles or JDM tuning companies like Mugen, Nismo, etc.
Digital turbo, consisting of speakers installed under the car that emulate the sound of a turbo engine.
A loud, free-flowing exhaust system with a large cylindrical resonator at the rear of the car, known as a "fart cannon", a "coffee can" and many other colorful names. Frequently a short large-diameter piece is added to the end of the stock exhaust to provide the appearance of a true free-flowing system without any actual performance enhancement.
A turbocharger simulator that fits inside the exhaust tip and uses exhaust gas pressure to produce the high-pitched "spooling" sound of a turbocharger.
Lighting
Decorative neon and LED lighting in addition to the regular head/tail lamps and brake/turn signals, such as lighted windshield washer nozzles and tire valve caps, underbody neon lighting ("hover lights"), etc.
"Altezza"-style lights or "Altezzas" (equally popular and known as "Lexus" lights in Europe), which have the colored light sources and reflective bodies contained within chrome housings and clear lenses. The term "Altezza" comes from the JDM (Japanese Domestic Market) Toyota Altezza, known in the US as the Lexus IS300 and Europe as the Lexus IS200. Toyota continues to use "Altezza" style tail lights on various Lexus models, including the RX "crossover SUV" and ES sedan
Super-bright headlight bulbs, sometimes of illegal specification and poorly aligned; colored bulbs, also often illegal, which are used for turning signals, side-markers, etc.
Car has any of the aforementioned modifications, yet appears to have sloppy workmanship or has not been properly cared for (dirty, parts of the car with smashed or dented body work, etc.)

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Jacqueline 11.03.2013. 01:56

Icelanders: How do you feel about foreigners speaking Icelandic? I'm an American, and I was wondering how Icelanders feel about foreigners speaking to them in Icelandic. Do you find it offensive to hear non-natives speaking your language? Would you be willing to speak to a foreigner in Icelandic, or would you want to only use English? I ask because I might visit Reykjavk one day, and I'd like to know if I can expect to use Icelandic there or if I'll just offend people and be spoken back to in English. This is assuming my grammar is correct and my accent not terrible.

Jacqueline

Admin 11.03.2013. 01:56

I am an immigrant to Iceland, so not exactly your target for this question. That said, I can probably help.

If you're visiting, you don't *have* to use Icelandic at all. Everyone here speaks English. Perhaps one in four so well you wouldn't know it's not their native language. You will have no difficulty conversing in English. The only thing I usually recommend for tourists is to take a little time with an introductory Icelandic pronunciation guide so that you can pronounce placenames right; it helps if you're trying to ask for directions or whatnot.

Now, if you *want* to speak Icelandic, that's a whole different story!

You won't offend people. Some may even be appreciative. But that doesn't mean you won't get spoken back to in English How bad your Icelandic is determines how likely it is that people will speak back to you in English. If your Icelandic is just awful and barely understandable, most will speak back to you in English. If your Icelandic is good but they can still hear an accent, maybe 10% will speak back to you in English. A subtle way to try to stop people from speaking English to you (doesn't always work but usually does) is just say "Ha?" and act confused when they speak English to you.

Have you started learning Icelandic yet? If not, start as soon as you can - the sooner the better! :) A couple tips:

* Heavy stress (double length) on the first syllable of every word and every component of a compound word that's not immediately after a stressed syllable. This is the most important rule of Icelandic pronunciation and is near universal.

* Ability to read/write and speak/hear are surprisingly different. If you want to speak/hear, practice with real speakers or at least watch Icelandic movies/TV/etc and try to speak back (you dont learn through osmosis, you have to use it!). Of particular importance will be learning how common words and phrases get blurred together - "brottfall" - and sentence emphasis, which can differ from word emphasis. An examle of brottfall: Mamma hans -> Mammans. An example of differing sentence emphasis (on the word ""): g kemst ekki dag (said "g kemst ekkdag") versus g heyri ekki r (said "g heyri ekki ** r"). The latter especially can generally only be learned through practice. Do you know about this site? http://www2.hu-berlin.de/bragi/b5/b5framburdarreglur.htm

Gangir vel!

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