7 Work At Home Mistakes To Avoid

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7 Work At Home Mistakes To Avoid

By: Tina Barraclough

When I first started my own "WORK AT HOME" business, I had no experience whatsoever , and I did not know how to get started on the right foot. After a lot of trial and error, I have learned [and still learning] on what to do and not to do to get started in my "WORK AT HOME " business.

Any one who had decided to start their own "WORK AT HOME" business , is going to make mistakes along the way. Remember, no one is perfect, so it is expected to make mistakes as you learn. Many "WORK AT HOME" mistakes can be avoided , when we learn from the mistakes of others.

1.) First of all, before you start a home based business, you must know what it is you'll be doing. You need to educate yourself about your "work at home" business. For example , Internet Marketing , Placing classifieds , getting a WEB SITE ,Follow-ups ,etc. Look at it this way , say you sign up someone under you , and they need help getting started , how are you going to help them if you do not even know this? Expect your first 6 months or so to be a learning process for you.

2.) SPAM

What is SPAM?

Simply put, SPAM is unsolicited advertising. It is our belief that SPAM is in the eye of the person being SPAMMED, not the person sending the SPAM. While you may not consider a message to be Spam, if the person receiving it does, it's SPAM. If you are not 100% certain that the person or persons you are advertising your Surfside Internet site to will not complain, DO NOT advertise your site to that person or persons. Any SPAM complaint is cause for immediate termination, no second chances, no questions asked. This is a very serious matter. Surfside Internet reserves the right to take legal action against any person or persons involved in SPAMMING

What types of advertising are considered SPAM?

Bulk e-mailing (sending an e-mail advertisement to persons listed on an e-mail address lead list).

Advertising with bulk e-mail services (companies who will send an e-mail advertisement to persons listed on an e-mail address lead list for you).

"Bounce back" e-mailing (sending an e-mail advertisement in reply to an e-mail advertisement that was sent to you).

Advertising your Surfside Internet site to people that you don't know, who didn't specifically request the information.

Cross-posting or advertising to Usenet newsgroups, forum or discussion lists, and online chats (IRC) is not allowed.

These are only examples. Remember, SPAMMING includes ANY unsolicited advertising.

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3.) Posting ads on Forums: Like spamming , posting ads on forums message boards can [most likely will] get you banned. Forums are only to be used as sources of information about business opportunities. You can ask questions , or get/give advice about any "Work At Home" business , or other topics , but absolutely not allowed to place any ads of any kind. When visiting Forums, always look for their rules/regulations , so you know what is and is not acceptable on these Forums.

4.) Submitting to FFA's. These are free for all sites that you can post your ads on. Do not waste your time posting your ads on these sites ,because your site will never get seen. Worse ,because most FFA's have such low rankings ,it will give your site a low rank ,because you posted on them. Place your ads on classified ad sites. Here is how to find classified site to place your ads. Go to your favorite Search Engine and type" free home business classifieds" or something like that. I have listed a few places for you to place ads on for your conveince.

Free Classifieds and Promotion at: http://www.inetgiant.com

A-Z FREE Classifieds http://www.freeclassifieds.com/

World profit FREE Classifieds http://www.worldprofit.com/classifieds/

Free Business Ads http://freebizadsweb.com/

Classifieds for Free http://www.classifiedsforfree.com/

FREE Classifieds Directory http://www.everydaybusinessonline.com/adsites.htm

5.) Shouting Other than using caps to emphasize a few words within an e-mail ,or a web page, do not use all caps. Using all capital letters in a text or a correspondence is considered shouting, and shouting at people just causes them to leave.

6.) Slow response to e-mails: If someone has taken the time to send you an e-mail for more information about your business, or has some questions, and you do not respond to them in a timely manner, then you probably have lost a potential customer, or an affiliate. Even if you do not know the answers [you may still be learning] let them know that you do not have the answers, but you will find out for them, and get back to them A.S.A.P .

7.) No persistence: Let me tell you that there is no such thing as a "Get Rich Quick Scheme" They do not exist. If you want to have a successful "Work At Home" business, then you must be willing to work hard for it. What you put into your business is exactly what you will get out of it. Persistence is the single most important factor in determining a successful "work at home" business. Be persistent and you will be successful.

About The Author

Tina Barraclough is a stay at home mom and owner of http://best-home-based-business-idea.com Visit her website for Business Opportunities, free e-books,Business Articles,etc.



blahhboo 23.06.2006. 19:27

How do people do French Manicure at home? How do people do french manicure at home and i mean the ones with the white tips, I want to know because i dont want to always pay to do my nails and when i try using white nailpolish on my nail tips they always smedge or somthing. Is there any ways i can do french manicure without skrewing it up at, other than geting them done?


Admin 23.06.2006. 19:27

Getting a Perfect 10

If you're never quite happy with your at-home manicure, don't blame your skills with the brush. The condition of your nails and cuticles makes all the difference. The most common manicure mistakes to avoid are:

Mistake 1:

Filing nails in the wrong direction. Sawing back and forth with your emery board and going too deep into the corners can split and weaken nails. The fix: Holding a fine emery board at a slight angle to the nail, file from left corner to center for a few strokes, then from right corner to center. Smooth with a fine metal file.

Mistake 2:

Neglecting cuticles. Rough, ragged cuticles can lead to painful hangnails. The fix: Brush cuticles with a rich oil after your morning shower and before bed. Let oil soak in for a minute or two, then rub into cuticle. "Oil penetrates better than hand cream," says Viner.

Mistake 3:

Cutting cuticles. Nipping away at your cuticles invites the risk of infection. (Your cuticles act as a barrier against bacteria.) The fix: In the shower, gently push back cuticles with a washcloth (the steamy water helps soften them).

Mistake 4:

Skipping base coat. Polish on bare nails can dry out the nail plate; and without a base coat, dark shades can stain nails or leave them yellow. The fix: Brush a moisturizing base coat on clean, dry nails; let the base coat dry for a few seconds before applying polish.

Mistake 5:

Leaving polish on too long. This, as well as too many layers of polish, dehydrates nails. And once polish begins to chip, it can peel away a superficial layer of the nail, too. The fix: Remove polish after five days; wash hands to rinse away remover, which can also be drying.

Do-It-Yourself Nails
8 tips for a flawless manicure.

Tip 1:

Check your polish. Old polish can become clumpy and thick, causing uneven application and bubbles. If your polish has become thick, add a few drops of polish thinner to the bottle and shake well. (Note: Don't use nail polish remover to do this!) Or treat yourself to a new bottle.

Tip 2:

Start with clean nails. If yours have traces of lotion or cuticle oil on them, polish won't stick evenly and will chip more readily. Use a cotton swab dipped in alcohol or nail polish remover to clean the surface of nails before you paint.

Tip 3:

Begin with a base coat. A base coat smoothes out nail ridges, and allows polish to go on more evenly. A base coat also protects nails from becoming stained when you wear dark polish.

Tip 4:

Watch your brush. As you remove your brush from the bottle, carefully wipe one side of the brush along the bottle's neck. This removes excess, bubble-producing nailcolor.

Tip 5:

Apply in minimal sweeps. Apply color from cuticles to tips in three swipes: One in the middle, and one on either side of the nail. You may need to use more strokes, but keep in mind that the fewer sweeps of color, the more even the result.

Tip 6:

Clean up as you go. It's inevitable that you'll wind up with some polish on the skin around your nails. Use a wooden nail stick to quickly swipe away the excess as you go.

Tip 7:

Finish it off with a top coat. A top coat seals the polish onto your nails and gives a high-shine finish (which can camouflage streaks or small bubbles).

Tip 8:

Allow ample drying time. Set aside at least an hour of hands-off time for nails to dry. And remember that while they may feel dry to the touch after that time, nails can still be tacky and more prone to nicking for a few hours afterward.

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Mr. Niceguy 26.06.2012. 16:13

Can memory leaks cause permanent damage to PC? I was wondering how dangerous can memory leaks be? can they cause permanent damage to the hardware. I am a "newbie" programmer and I am starting to get into advanced topics such as memory allocation and classes and objects. The PC that I am getting is going to be new and I don't want to damage this new machine. It is an HP pavilion hpe h8 1220t..with an windows 7 home premium operating system. It is a 64 bit computer.

Mr. Niceguy

Admin 26.06.2012. 16:13

I already have had hundreds of memory leaks in my programs : it is difficult to avoid them when you write a big program. It is almost impossible to program without mistakes, that have to be corrected by debugging.
Yet, it occurred never to me, that a memory leak caused me any loss of data, leave alone damaging the PC. It certainly cannot cause hardware damages. It even never occurred that i lost data.
So do not worry. Keep programming !


Anthony Mancini 19.11.2011. 00:10

What are some mistakes to avoid in life? I'm almost out of highschool. I know what I'm going to college for. I want people to share their wisdom with me. What are some things to avoid in life (in general). Whether it's economic, social, or anything else.

Anthony Mancini

Admin 19.11.2011. 00:10

I'm 44 and these are some things I know from experience that would be good to avoid:
1. Getting too entwined in a relationship while young.
2. First semester of college: Got too caught up in the party scene and neglected homework. Luckily, I realized at the end of the first month that I was there to do the best I could do so I kept my partying to weekends only and ended up graduating magma cum laude. If I had it to do all over again, I'd be the non-drinker I am now and would have never touched any type of drug or tobacco.
3. Credit cards are nice and do help establish your credit BUT only charge what you know you can pay by the end of the month and always, always send the payment a week ahead of the due date to ensure it gets there on time.
4. Don't procrastinate when doing school work...especially term papers.
5. If you need help, don't be afraid to seek it.
6. Save sex for marriage and get to know the guy...you will know "the one" when you find a guy who you can talk to and who can talk to you better than any best friend you have ever had. Sexual relationships always ends up taking precedence over truly getting to know who someone is on the inside.
7. Save money whenever possible for life's "emergencies"
8. It is always worth paying the little extra for warranties or insurance on trips, etc. b/c you never know when you might need it.
9. Always have regular maintenance, especially oil changes, done on any vehicle you drive.
10. Put up with the annoyances of family b/c you will always need them in your life.
11. Take all of the overtime you can while you are young and single and save up whatever you can to purchase a home. A house is a great investment b/c you can always refinance if there in case of catastrophic financial situation. It is even better to pay extra into an escrow account so you will have that huge amount of $ needed to replace or fix a furnace or roof, etc. Do not buy a house until you can put a really good downpayment on it and can truly afford the payments.
12. Believe in Jesus and ask Him to be your Savior. Whenever I have been at my wits' end emotionally, in relationships, in emergencies, in dire financial straits, or any situation God ALWAYS has a way and always provides simply because I am His child by believing in His Son. I've been in awful situations and yet had peace within, I've been penniless and wondering what to feed my kids and experienced miraculous gifts of money or food from people who felt the need to give it and had no clue of my situation. I've known others whose needs have been supplied in miraculous ways as well as those healed of diseases when all hope was lost.


Well la-di-da 18.12.2007. 21:34

Nurses and health professionals - is it relatively easy to avoid accidentally killing a patient? I know medical mistakes happen...and we have all heard how there are shocking numbers of accidental deaths due to medical mistakes, etc. But I'm wondering on a day to day basis, is it relatively easy to avoid such mistakes? I imagine that most hospitals/doctor's offices have systems in place to try to minimize accidents.

As a new nurse were you ever scared that you were going to accidentally kill a patient? Have you ever witnessed another nurse make a huge mistake? If so - what were the circumstances involved?

Well la-di-da

Admin 18.12.2007. 21:34

Some nurses whether they are male or female have been known to give patients medications to actually KILLl the patient. That comes from nurses who have worked for a good while and then began to hate their job and they also tell patients that they hate their jobs. It's quite common. That is why a patient should question what is being given to them and how much is being given to them. And make the nurse show the patient the medications so the patient can see it to see if he or she recognizes it! And a patient has a RIGHT to refuse medications also.

Never let a nurse pull LOOSE PILLS out of her "smock" pocket and say "here this will make you sleep"..... to the patient.

That happened to my husband late one night on the night shift and the old nurse pulled 7 white pills out of her smock pocket that WERE NOT IN A BLISTER PACK!

And she tried to make him take them and he refused! Thank GOD he did not take them because the next day when the doctor came in we questioned the doctor and asked him if he ordered anything to MAKE my husband sleep and the answer was NO!

Next issue my husband was in a different hospital and I was staying there in a private room with him on a daily basis, slept on the cot in the room. Left for about 3 hours that night to go check on the house and get mail and feed dog and bird....and I called my husbands room to check on him...and there was no answer! I kept calling and calling and calling and calling and finally the DOCTOR answered the phone in my husband's room. The doctor said my husband had been over dosage and that Two of the nurses had OVER DOSAGE HIM ON MORPHINE INJECTIONS!!!! My husband could not wake up for 48 hours and when he did slightly wake up after the doctor ordered medicine to counter act the over dosage that the 2 nurses had given him....my husband was extermely latharagic and overly sleep. It took about a week before he was able to stay alert!

We got a call one night from one of our sons college roommates. Who told us our son was in the emergency room. We went to the emergency room. And our son to me did not look good, he looked sick. The doctor did not act to concerned and stated "oh it's just the stomach flu."

We lost our 19 year old son due to medical mal-practice where an emergency room doctor miss diagnoised our son and said he had the stomach flu. It turned out SHE the doctor did not recognise any of our son's symptoms! SHE DID NOT ORDER ANY TESTS OR LAB WORK! On the medical record it showed where our son told the nurse in the emergency room of several problems, including frequent urination, excessive thirst, hunger, weight loss inspite of increased appetite, fatigue, weight loss, and blurry vision, Nausea, vomiting! The nurse gave him one bag of Lactate Ringers (Sodium water) which sort of perked him up. The NURSE had an EKG ran. At 12:45 a.m. the doctor discharged him from the emergency room to go home and take some over the counter medicine for nausea. And the doctor said follow up with your own family doctor in 1 to 2 days. I asked my son do you want to come home with us for the night? He said no cause all of his things were at the apartment that they were renting and you know how young people can be...he was trying to prove to me and his dad......"mom" I'm not a kid anymore"... you parents out there know what I mean when kids get on their own they want to prove to their parents they can stand on their own two feet and that they are not babies anymore. Right???

At 3:15 a.m. we got another phone call from his roommates (they all were going to college and worked parttime and had an apartment.) Jason his roommate told me after I answered the telephone that our son was DEAD! My husband and I were in a total SHOCK!!! Could not even drive to a different hospital were the EMS had taken our son...we were crying...and trying to drive ourselves to the hospital...speeding and running lights and not a cop in sight to help us through the traffice! We ended up having an autoposy done of our healthy son..... DIABETIC COMA! DIABETIC KEDIACIDOSIS which means DEATH FROM DIABETIC COMA! THE AUTOPSY SHOWED He had juvenile diabetes GLUCOSE LEVEL WAS 998!!!!!!! WHEN HE DIED! By his body remaining in that high state of high glucose, it damaged his heart also and he died! and the stupid doctor did not even pick up on that. So what, so we won the law suit, we won the case! But does not bring back our son!!!

PARENTS OUT THERE IF YOUR CHILD OR ANYONE IN YOUR FAMILY OR ANYONE YOU KNOW HAVE ANY OF THE ABOVE SYMPTOMS PLEASE go to a doctor and have lab work done to make sure you are not a diabetic!


redebeth 10.01.2007. 00:51

How can I help my 7 year old son express his emotions better? I've always had a hard time getting him to talk to me. I have sort of given up but I've realized that is a big mistake. Any conversation starters or other ideas? I just want to know if any other children are like this.


Admin 10.01.2007. 00:51

You've received some great answers here.

I would add only a few things that worked for me. I bought a poster that showed different facial expressions with the feeling word below the expression. Also, feeding back to the child what you think they might be feeling gives them words to give back to you. Children are not born knowing "this feeling" is called "despondent." Sometimes it helps to give a child a catch-all. In our house it was "I feel some kind of way." This was the way a child could say they weren't sure what to call what they felt or even why they felt the way they did.

A seven-year-old boy is not a man. He is not a girl, of course, but certainly there is no reason to write off his lack of communication as "male." Men are taught to keep it inside by parents who think this is the thing to do. While you certainly don't want to teach your child to talk to just any old body, it's more than appropriate for them to share with their parents, grandparents, even a sibling close in age.

A seven-year-old is plenty old enough to understand the emotions of others. If you feel frustrated, anxious, excited, bored, impatient, happy, mischevious -- tell him. "I feel excited about getting a new stereo. I also feel anxious because I'm not sure if I will understand the instructions. I think I will feel frustrated at first, but then I will feel accomplished once I've learned how it works."

Ask open-ended questions (questions that don't have a yes or no answer). Too, take him for walks or drives. Sometimes it's enough for a child to just spend time with their parent -- especially if they're sharing that time with other siblings. Done on a regular basis (once a week), you may find your child opening up all on his own.

I used to take all my kids for a ziploc bag walk. We'd go for a walk and collect things along the way -- bottle caps, sticks, feathers, etc. Be sure you know the route before you take them so as to avoid trashy areas. Once home, we picked and chose what we would glue to a big piece of poster board. It made for interesting Saturday afternoons and it was quite the conversation piece for visitors. Letting the children tell people about the different objects had me realizing just how much they remembered and how they perceived their world.

A particularly hard to communicate with child will often respond better to questions like "What do you suppose that bird is doing up there?" rather than "Why aren't you talking to me?"

While "I don't know" is a standard response for a child who doesn't like to talk, speculation on your part can't hurt ("I wonder if he goes to some sort of bird school and then comes back to do bird homework. I wonder what birds would learn in bird school.") If your child is well into more logical thinking vs play-thinking, speculate about reality ("I wonder what kinds of things birds eat.")

It's frustrating to have a non-talker, boy or girl, because as mothers we know most children are little chatterboxes -- even those who are painfully shy away from home. Find out what interests him and pursue it. Don't expect communication right away (it may take several weeks or more even with consistent interaction) but do keep interacting with him. When engaging in an activity of interest to him, keep the focus on him and his interest. Don't give into the temptation to sneak in an interest of your own -- there's time for that later. If he asks you, by all means share, but keep it short and deflect back to him.

Be sure to keep him involved by giving him chores that he is in charge of -- meaning no one else is allowed to do that chore nor are they allowed to comment on how he does it. Tell him "You are in charge of keeping things put away that end up on the living room floor" or "You are in charge of wiping down the counter fronts in the kitchen."

My son, about age 9, went through an especially quiet stage. I found family photos to be helpful. We would quietly go through them for the purpose of making a collage. Sometimes he would use markers to make words (it was a very basic version of scrapbooking), but often he would just look at the pictures and sometimes ask questions or have comments. Too, I bought him a camera (disposables would be the way to go these days) and let him loose. When the pictures were developed, I would sit quietly while he told me about things and people in the pictures. I made no judgements or suggestions for taking "better" pictures.

It was especially good for he and I to have quiet time alone because his sister (just 11 months younger) was/is hell on wheels. I had to spend a lot of time with her, and this was time not spent directly with him. Making time to spend with him made it all the more special for both of us.

Honestly, those quiet times were some of the sweetest moments I'd ever spent with him.


foxygoldcleo 09.08.2007. 02:30

What are your top 10 tips for a first time home buyer? I am thinking of buying a condo or townhouse, but I am scared I will make a mistake. So perhaps you can share your best tips for buying a home.


Admin 09.08.2007. 02:30

This is something that I give all of my first time home buyers...

Top 7 Tips for First Time Homebuyers
by Eric Bramlett

Purchasing your first home is a big step, that comes with some very serious decisions. Many homebuyers are intimidated by the process, and continue renting much longer than they should, or need to. However, if you break the homebuying process down into these simple steps, and follow these important tips, you will find the process less intimidating, and much more manageable.
1) Before You Begin, Ask Yourself One Question
Will you live in your next home for at least 3 years? If the answer is "Yes," you should probably purchase, rather than continue renting. With average appreciation, you'll break even on your closing costs after 2 years, and start making money at year three. Every year after that will put more money in your pocket! The most expensive aspect of real estate is buying & selling, so the longer you can live in the home the better. However, purchasing makes sense if you can make as little as a 36 month commitment.
2) You Don't Need a Down Payment!
It always surprises me how many people want to purchase a home, but don't because they believe that a hefty down payment is required. Zero down programs are very common, and are quickly becoming the norm, rather than the exception to the rule. Because your new home is collateral for the loan, there are many banks that will jump at the chance to loan you 100% of its value. Perfect credit isn't a requirement, either. Because real estate typically appreciates in value, it's often easier to be approved for a 100% mortgage than it is to borrow 100% for a car!
3) Get Pre-Qualified
Pre-qualification is a very important step, and the step that first time home buyers dread the most. Qualifying to buy a home is pretty easy and requires relatively little work for you. Pre-qualification is what gives you buying power and allows you to make an offer on your dream home when you've found it. More importantly, pre-qualification will let you know how much your new home will REALLY cost - in monthly payments. A $150,000 or $300,000 home doesn't mean a lot to most buyers - but $1200 per month and $2500 per month are tangibles that everyone can understand. After your lender pre-qualifies you, ask them for a "payment table" that shows you a rough estimate of TOTAL monthly payment based on purchase price. Pick your payment, and you know the price range to shop in.
4) Consult a Real Estate Professional ASAP
Many first time home buyers avoid contacting a Real Estate Agent because they dislike high pressure sales. However, Real Estate Agents have an advantage over traditional salespeople because they have access to the Multiple Listing Service, which is a database that lists roughly 99% of the homes for sale in a given market. This means that your Real Estate Agent doesn't have to sell - he/she merely presents your options. The most important qualities to look for in your Real Estate Agent are his/her knowledge of your specific market and their willingness to help. Interview a few agents and choose one that will help guide you through the process. You'll find the help & insight will be invaluable - and you'll be glad you contacted your Real Estate Agent sooner, rather than later.
5) Make a List of "Must Haves" & "Wants"
Many new home buyers mistakenly think that they will "just know" when they "walk into the one." While some buyers DO fall instantly in love with a home, this is not the norm. You'll find your search is easier, and you will be more confident in your decision, if you take a systematic approach to your search. The best way to organize your search is to make two lists: Your "must haves" and your "wants." Your "must haves" are the absolute necessities in your new home - in fact, you don't even need to view a home if it doesn't have every "must have." Great examples of your "must haves" are price, school district, size, etc... Your "wants" are the qualities that you would like for your new home to have, but it's not a necessity. Great examples of "wants" are color, flooring, kitchen appliances, surround sound, and type of exterior. By taking the time to articulate what you need and want in your new home, you will know exactly what to look for when viewing prospective homes.
6) Pick Your Favorite Neighborhoods
You can always make changes to your house, but you can never change its location. Most home buyers already have a good idea of where they would like to live because of school districts, work, or other factors. However, neighborhoods can be pretty different, even in the same area of the city. Ask your Real Estate Agent to email you a list of homes in the specific area of town you're interested in. Take a drive through the different neighborhoods on the list your Real Estate Agent sends you, and choose your favorites. Pay attention to area amenities, how well the yards & common areas are kept, and if you see a lot of "for lease" signs - which can be an indication of a heavy rental area, and lacking in "pride of ownership." After you have picked your favorite neighborhoods, and you know your "must haves" and "wants," you can literally make a list of EVERY home available that meets your criteria, and view those homes.
7) Make Your Decision!!!
Homebuyers often hesitate after they've found the right home because they're not confident about their decision, or their decision-making process. Your home is probably the largest investment of your life, and it's normal to feel butterflies in your stomach before putting your first home under contract. However, if you do your due diligence - and you have if you followed the steps above - then you will have your bases covered. If you've found a home that meets all of your "must haves," most of your "wants," is in the right neighborhood, and in your budget - it's the home for you! Don't wait and let another buyer take YOUR home!
Buying your first home can seem very intimidating, but can be extremely exciting. If you think that buying a home is right for you, it probably is. Make sure and follow these important tips and you'll know you made the right decision when you find your first home.

Good Luck!! If you want this in a printable format, e-mail me at driskelrealtor@yahoo.com


angela 11.02.2012. 13:39

How to be positive in a negative environment? I met the nicest cashier the other day, he was so pleasant I just wanted to be like him. I said you are happy today, he said the way I look at it you have a choice at every moment to be pleasant or not I choose to be pleasant. I want to be like him but the 2 days since I met him have been the darkest of my life. I come home and everybody is so negative and hateful gets me in a bad mood, where do I start? I feel that jumping off a cliff would be an easier solution right now.


Admin 11.02.2012. 13:39

The best thing i can tell you is not to let others control you. EMOTIONS are powerful. They affect the way you think and act. Part of becoming a mature, responsible adult, however, is learning to control one?s emotions. Some experts now feel that the ability to manage emotions and to deal with people is more valuable than intelligence. In any event, the Bible places a high value on controlling one?s feelings. For example, Proverbs 25:28 says: ?If you cannot control your anger, you are as helpless as a city without walls, open to attack.? (Today?s English Version) What makes it so hard to control one?s feelings?People of all ages and backgrounds struggle with controlling their emotions particularly when everyone around you is so negative. Fortunately, your Creator well understands your feelings. He knows even your ?disquieting thoughts.? (Psalm 139:23) In his Word he has set forth some principles that can help One key to controlling your emotions is learning to control your thoughts. Negative thoughts can sap you of the energy you need to take action. (Proverbs 24:10) But how can you learn to think positively and thus be helped to control your emotions?One way is to refuse to dwell on negative things that make you feel depressed or insecure. By following the Bible advice to focus on things that are ?serious? and ?righteous,? you can replace negative thoughts with positive ones. (Philippians 4:8) Doing this may not be easy, but with effort it can be done.One key to controlling your emotions is learning to control your thoughts. Do not dwell on your weaknesses, allowing them to paralyze you and prevent you from applying yourself to making improvement. Similarly, you can build your confidence by acknowledging your strengths and turning to God for help to cope with your weaknesses. God really can help you, as he did people in the past.?Exodus 4:10. Another way you can help to control your emotions is to set modest, realistic goals and accept your limitations. Also avoid unfairly comparing yourself with others. At Galatians 6:4, the Bible gives good advice when it says: ?Let each one prove what his own work is, and then he will have cause for exultation in regard to himself alone, and not in comparison with the other person.?Really it all comes down to controlling your thoughts. At Proverbs 19:11, the Bible says: ?The insight of a man certainly slows down his anger, and it is beauty on his part to pass over transgression.? When someone upsets you, try to understand why he or she behaved that way. Was that person deliberately trying to hurt you? Could it be that he or she was acting impulsively or out of ignorance? Making allowances for the mistakes of others reflects God?s own mercy, and it can help slow down your feelings of anger. Then the situation stays positive and you aren't becoming negative
Being around people who make an effort to stay positive can help.
Believe it or not exercise helps to keep you positive also.
Consider, too, your choices of music and entertainment. A study published in The Harvard Mental Health Letter said: ?Viewing violence . . . tends to stir angry and aggressive feelings. . . . People watching violent films thought more aggressive thoughts and showed a rise in blood pressure.? So make wise decisions when it comes to what you listen to and watch.?Psalm 1:1-3; 1 Corinthians 15:33.
Ultimately, the best way to learn to control your emotions is to develop a close friendship with your Creator. He invites each of us to speak to him in prayer, to pour out our feelings and emotions. ?Do not be anxious over anything,? encouraged the apostle Paul. ?Let your petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard your hearts and your mental powers.? Yes, you can develop the inner strength to face any situation in life. The apostle Paul added: ?For all things I have the strength by virtue of him who imparts power to me.??Philippians 4:6, 7, 13.


?MitsuxAi? 03.04.2012. 04:41

How do I keep my eyeliner from smearing(melting) during school? When I get home from school my eyeliner on the bottom is either gone, or smeared. Does someone know how to prevent this?


Admin 03.04.2012. 04:41

Eyeliner is probably my favorite makeup product ever. My very first eyeliner was an Elizabeth Arden. It had been stored in my drawer for quite a while before I finally found myself wanting to use it. The first time I used it, I only applied it on my waterline. I didn't put any on my upper lash line. Because I didn't know that I had to. But I was already satisfied with the look, it already made a difference. And I knew my eyes looked better. Of course, time came when I found out that I also had to put some eyeliner on my upper lash line. So yeah, that made the look even better. It opened up and enhanced the look of my eyes even more. =)

Yes I loved it. But I had one major dilemma, it smudged like crazy! I had no problem with my upper lash line from smudging. But the outer corner of my lower lash line smudged on me like there's no tomorrow. It's so annoying! I tried other eyeliners. As far as I can remember I think I used one from The Face Shop and it still smudged a lot. Until I went on and googled (always remember that google is your friend) for reviews and found out about Revlon Colorstay. I got it, tried it and I did see an improvement. Although I must admit, it still smudged. But not as much as the other eyeliners I've tried. So one thing I could advice, look and research for a good smudge-proof eyeliner.

The thing is, no matter how smudge-proof or water resistant your eyeliner is, there's still a possibility for it to smudge especially if you live in a hot and humid weather. But if you don't want to give up like me and you want to keep on trying some ways to keep it from smudging, then maybe you might want to try some of these things I've learned and tried.

1.) Look for a good eyeliner - A good eyeliner doesn't have to be anything expensive. There are good cheap brands that carries good eyeliners. As much as possible, try not to purchase on impulse. Do a research about the product you want to try and read reviews. Ask people you know that might've tried them. And see what they think about it.

2.) Use an eyeshadow to set your eyeliner. Line your lash line with your favorite pencil eyeliner, then set it with a matching eyeshadow. This will help soak up the oils and somehow help prevent the smudging.

3.) Your powder or powder foundation is wonderful for blotting the oils on your eye area. So when you feel like you need to retouch, do so. Carefully blot around your eye area to help absorb the oils.

4.) Use a good eye primer like Too Faced Shadow Insurance or Urban Decay Primer Potion. I am using the one from Too Faced. I know it's real purpose is to avoid eyeshadow creasing, but I put it on my lower lash line focusing on the outer corner. And it works so well. It did help keep my eyeliner from melting. I can actually see a big difference. Although, it still does smudge a tinsy bit sometimes. I think I see a little darkness on the outer corner but not really anything crazy. That's around after 6-7 hours if I'm not mistaken. I guess it still depends on how long you wear your eyeliner.

5.) If all else fail, try using other types of eyeliners.
Liquid eyeliner - Pick a good liquid eyeliner. They won't budge at all. But they're only meant to be used on the upper lash line. So if you're having problems with smudging on your upper lash line, try using a liquid liner.
MAC Fluidline Gel Liner - LOVE! I would def suggest this one. I have used this a couple of times and I love it. It could be used on both upper and lower lash line. I even have it on my waterline. And yes, it doesn't melt. The color on my lower lash line fades a little at the end of the day, though. But still, it didn't smudge like a pencil eyeliner would. And I didn't even apply the Too Faced Shadow Insurance, how much better if I did?.. I did see a little bit of darkening on the outer lower corner of my lash line though, but it was not too visible. And that was after 6-7 hours I think (Gah I'm not sure). Anyway the only con is that it takes a little time to apply especially when you're new with this whole brush application method. And also, it's kind of a hassle to bring along your jar of gel liner and eyeliner brush for touch-ups.. But no matter what, MAC fluidline is current my fave!

Sorry bout the time length, I'm not quite sure. But I will note the # of hours next time and I will do an update... That's it for now, hope I helped! =)


JdotS93 31.01.2011. 21:16

Should I get a operation done on my cat to avoind pregnancy? My parents want to avoid taking care of kittens due to the exspense and lack space and are trying to get an operation done on our cat to avoid pregnancy.
I however oppose this as I see this as an ethical issue in which a Cats rights are being violated.

What is YOUR advice?

Please give positive and mature answers, Thank you.


Admin 31.01.2011. 21:16

The cat doesn't care. They operate on instinct, not feelings about reproduction. But consider what happens by not spaying her. The more times she goes into heat, the greater the risk of health problems, most commonly mammary tumors. Pregnancy, especially on a very young cat is a risk to both her health, and that of any kittens. In heat, she will be miserable, and make it miserable for all around her, and may spray urine around to advertise. She will attract intact males, who will spray particularly foul urine around your property.

You are concerned about the ethics. What about the ethics of the simple fact that there is an explosion of unwanted kittens and puppies, such that millions and millions are put to death each year due to the lack of homes.

Approximately 5 million to 7 million companion animals enter animal shelters nationwide every year, and approximately 3 million to 4 million are euthanized (60 percent of dogs and 70 percent of cats).

And if you think you can keep her from escaping when she is in heat, you will probably find out not only are you mistaken, but you will have a litter of unwanted kittens to deal with 65-67 days after she escapes. And that cost is not going to be free either.


Aaron 04.04.2010. 07:40

I need advice from people who are good at running races? Hi there. I really want to win a race which is 4kms (or 2.49miles.) I've been training for a little while and have been searching things on the internet for what I should eat before the race and also breathoing techniques. What are some things I should keep in mind when the race day comes? I am only 15 and desperately want to make it in the home team. Help! :)
Or any helpful hints?


Admin 04.04.2010. 07:40

1. You must be as relaxed as possible when you run. Listen to your body and see how it reacts to sudden sprints or long-jump type or running (like when you make very long steps aka strides). Those who tuck their bellies trying to look cool while running are making the basic mistake.

2. Get good running shoes. Feet must be comfortable, otherwise you'll get blisters or your soles will suffer, etc. For cross country, the soles should be just a bit wider then the foot, not the same width as the foot, to provide an 'edge' which protects your foot from sprains (these can happen very easily).

3. If you're not in great shape, give your body time to adjust. Start with 1km for the first three days, move to 1.5km (days 4 to 6), then to 2km (days 7 to 9) days, 3km (days 10 to 15) and 4 km (days 16 to 30, presuming you have at least a month to prepare). Try to run regularly, unless your muscles hurt, then stop for a day. Warming up before and after each run is something not to be forgotten, reduces the chance of injuries and just makes the whole body better prepared. Those who finish a run and don't stretch afterwards are hurting themselves in the long run.

4. Once you're in good shape, do quick sprints during the run, then slower running, then regular for most of the time, then a few more sprints. This will tire you at first, but will make you a better and stronger runner, for sure. And it also helps with teaching the body (especially the heart) how to find enough strength to suddenly sprint at the end of the race.

5. Run up and down the stairs at different pace and in irregular strides (one stair, three, two, three, two, one, one, two, etc.). If you can train on slopes and hills, do that as much as possible, once you're in good shape, because running both up a hill and down a hill is what tires muscles the most and will cause them to stiff up quickly if your legs are not used to such routines. Even if the race will be over a flat terrain, slope training will help you with the overall fitness.

6. Avoid running in gyms on machines, because that is a completely different type of running, different muscles are used and the body behaves in a different way. Running outside is the only real aka proper running. Also, try to do it as regularly as possible, even if you have to force yourself at times. Like with so many things in life, routine helps a lot.

7. When it's pouring, give it a miss, but running in light rain can be a very good training. As long as you see it's safe.

8. Don't overdo it. When you feel you're extremely hot or you're having trouble breathing, slow down, go back to fast walking and head back home. To improve breathing capacity, do situps and pullups at home. It helps. A lot.

9. As for food, half of a 100-gram milk chocolate and a banana can do the trick, a quick energy shot before the race.

Good luck. Just remember to breathe deeply, drink enough water and enjoy yourself!


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