Body Language Speakers Louder Than Words

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Body Language Speakers Louder Than Words

By: Lydia Ramsey

Has it ever occurred to you how much you are saying to people even when you are not speaking? Unless you are a master of disguise, you are constantly sending messages about your true thoughts and feelings whether you are using words or not.

Studies show that your words account for only 7% of the messages you convey. The remaining 93% is non-verbal. 55% of communication is based on what people see and the other 38% is transmitted through tone of voice. So think about it. In the business setting, people can see what you are not saying. If your body language doesn't match your words, you are wasting your time.

Eye contact is the most obvious way you communicate. When you are looking at the other person, you show interest. When you fail to make eye contact, you give the impression that the other person is of no importance. Maintain eye contact about 60% of the time in order to look interested, but not aggressive.

Facial expression is another form of non-verbal communication. A smile sends a positive message and is appropriate in all but a life and death situation. Smiling adds warmth and an aura of confidence. Others will be more receptive if you remember to check your expression.

Your mouth gives clues, too, and not just when you are speaking. Mouth movements, such as pursing your lips or twisting them to one side, can indicate that you are thinking about what you are hearing or that you are holding something back.

The position of your head speaks to people. Keeping your head straight, which is not the same as keeping your head on straight, will make you appear self-assured and authoritative. People will take you seriously. Tilt your head to one side if you want to come across as friendly and open.

How receptive you are is suggested by where you place your arms. Arms crossed or folded over your chest say that you have shut other people out and have no interest in them or what they are saying. This position can also say, "I don't agree with you." You might just be cold, but unless you shiver at the same time, the person in front of you may get the wrong message.

How you use your arms can help or hurt your image as well. Waving them about may show enthusiasm to some, but others see this gesture as one of uncertainty and immaturity. The best place for your arms is by your side. You will look confident and relaxed. If this is hard for you, do what you always do when you want to get better at something - practice. After a while, it will feel natural.

The angle of your body gives an indication to others about what's going through your head. Leaning in says, "Tell me more." Leaning away signals you've heard enough. Adding a nod of your head is another way to affirm that you are listening.

Posture is just as important as your grandmother always said it was. Sit or stand erect if you want to be seen as alert and enthusiastic. When you slump in your chair or lean on the wall, you look tired. No one wants to do business with someone who has no energy.

Control your hands by paying attention to where they are. In the business world, particularly when you deal with people from other cultures, your hands need to be seen. That would mean you should keep them out of your pockets and you should resist the urge to put them under the table or behind your back. Having your hands anywhere above the neck, fidgeting with your hair or rubbing your face, is unprofessional.

Legs talk, too. A lot of movement indicates nervousness. How and where you cross them tells others how you feel. The preferred positions for the polished professional are feet flat on the floor or legs crossed at the ankles. The least professional and most offensive position is resting one leg or ankle on top of your other knee. Some people call this the "Figure Four." It can make you look arrogant.

The distance you keep from others is crucial if you want to establish good rapport. Standing too close or "in someone's face" will mark you as pushy. Positioning yourself too far away will make you seem standoffish. Neither is what you want so find the happy medium. Most importantly, do what makes the other person feel comfortable. If the person with whom you are speaking keeps backing away from you, stop. Either that person needs space or you need a breath mint.

You may not be aware of what you are saying with your body, but others will get the message. Make sure it's the one you want to send.

(c)2004, Lydia Ramsey. All rights in all media reserved.

About The Author

Lydia Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker, corporate trainer and author of MANNERS THAT SELL - ADDING THE POLISH THAT BUILDS PROFITS. She has been quoted or featured in The New York Times, Investors' Business Daily, Entrepreneur, Inc., Real Simple and Woman's Day. For more information about her programs, products and services, e-mail her at or visit her web site


Bookworm 27.05.2013. 04:02

I'm planning on learning French, Japanese, and Arabic. What are your personal opinions on these languages? I'm planning on learning French, Japanese, and Arabic. What do you think of these languages? Have you learned them? Can you give me any tips, suggestions, or advice for beginners?

Thank you!


Admin 27.05.2013. 04:02

I speak two of these three.

Assuming you are a native English speaker:

French: You'll find many words which are familiar, as French and English share a long history and have influenced each other a lot. French pronunciation can be tricky. The grammar is reasonably like that of English. Nouns are masculine or feminine, and it can be hard to remember which is which without hints. It is a demonstrative and expressive language; it's often said that the French speak as much with their bodies as they do with their voices.

Japanese: extremely easy to pronounce, but significantly harder to read and write unless you study like a maniac. On top of that, the grammar is like nothing you will ever have come across, unless you've studied Korean. You have to wade through a ton of particles and bits and pieces before you come to what the writer finally wants to say. On the flip side, however, as Japanese borrows many words from other languages (mainly English), then once you get over how they butcher the native pronunciation, you will find that you know a good few words already. You'll have to learn to speak in a more monotone way - in English, we tend to emphasise a word by saying it louder, or higher, or in some way differently, but in Japanese they make an emphatic point by using a different word, or a particle like "yo". That's not the hip-hop "yo", btw, it just gives more oomph to the sentence. For instance

"Pa-ti ni ikimasu ka?" ("Are you going to the party")
"Ikimasu" (Yes, I'm going")
"Ikimasu yo" ("Yeah, of course I am!")

Arabic: can't advise you. It is generally included in the "hard" category when languages are categorised by difficulty, but that's just what I read. I did read that the speakers of the various dialects can't understand each other, but they may well be able to use the written language as a lingua franca (much like Mandarin and Cantonese speakers do). But that's just speculation on my part.


Keegzz 23.01.2008. 03:54

I have an exam tomorrow and I need to be able to recall information? What can i do to help me recall the information for my test?


Admin 23.01.2008. 03:54

1. Memorizing -In my opinion, this is absolutely the worst way to keep track of material. People are preoccupied with trying to remember the words to say and not the ideas behind the words (or with the audience). As a result, normal voice inflection disappears. With memorizing, mental blocks become inevitable. With memorizing it is not a matter of "will" you forget; it's a matter of WHEN!

2. Reading from complete text - Listening to someone read a speech or presentation is hated by most people. People say, "If that's all they were going to do is read there speech, I could have read it myself." I'm sure many of us have experienced this at least once while attending a conference or two. Below are some reasons why I believe people read poorly:
# The speaker loses normal voice inflection because they lose touch with the ideas behind the words. Listen for pauses. Natural speech is filled with pauses; unnatural speech is not.
# The text isn't spoken language - too often speakers write their speeches in "business language". That is often hard to read, much less listen to.
# The speech isn't static - the potted plant will probably move more. There is little movement, little energy, little interest behind the lectern.
# There's no or little eye contact - any eye contact is with the text, not the audience. To read text while trying to maintain eye contact with the audience takes a lot of practice.
# The speaker is scared - many speakers read because they are afraid to try anything else. They know reading will fail but at least it will fail with a small "f" rather than a capital one.

NOTE: Don't get me wrong, there are times when speeches MUST be read. Many times it is necessary to read policy statements or company announcements. Also, some speeches must be timed right down to the second.


If reading is absolutely necessary, here are some suggestions:
# Pay attention to the inflection in your voice - to sound natural, rehearse often, checking yourself for pauses. Ask yourself if your words sound the way you would say them if you weren't reading. Tape yourself and listen to your own voice. Take notes where changes should be made with the inflection in your voice.
# When preparing your written speech, say the words "out loud" first in order that your written text will read closer to your speaking style. This will make it easier to read and much easier to listen to. People often DO NOT write the same way as they speak and this makes reading more difficult. If we use wording and phrasing we normally use in our everyday language it will be easier to add the correct voice inflection and tone. Annotate your text to indicate which words to emphasize. Numbers are the easiest target words to say slowly with emphasis on each syllable.
# One of the biggest problems speakers face when reading text is that we often forget to use gestures. We are so busy making sure we read the text we fail to communicate effectively with our entire body. One thing we can do to help this is to "double space" your typed text to leave room to add notes or cues about gestures and other reminder type clues. We need to practice using this annotated text of our speech so we can easily and smoothly react to these cues for our gestures while at the same time correctly read the text. This does take some practice. Some people do this very effectively.

I work with ministers who do this extremely well, but they also practice a lot! Videotape yourself reading the speech and then sit and watch the speech, making notes as to the gestures which could have been used. Add notes to your written text based on this review, using notes or even pictures of the gestures to use and deliver the speech again, trying this time to add gestures. After a little practice, this will become second nature.
# When we read speeches, the amount of eye contact with our audience is usually less. In some cases, people who read speeches have NO eye contact. To avoid this, first write like you speak (see suggestion #2). When typing the text, use upper and lower case letters. This will make it easier to read. TYPING EVERYTHING IN UPPPERCASE, AS I HAVE DONE HERE, MAKES IT MORE DIFFICULT TO READ> Don't have long paragraphs or you will lose your place every time you look up. Start a new paragraph every sentence or two. Also, have your text double spaced. Some people even go so far as alternating the color of the text for each paragraph.

Use unstapled pages for your text. Paper clip your pages and just before you begin, remove the paper clip. As you prepare your text, keep in mind that you will have to handle these pages and you want to do this smoothly and as quietly as you can. Do not have part of a sentence begin on one page and continue onto the next page. End the page with a complete sentence and paragraph.

During your pauses, smoothly "slide" the page you just finished using to one side and continue with the text on the next page. Do not pick up the page and place it behind or turn the page over when done. This will be distracting and will bring attention to the fact that you are reading. Avoid handling the pages as much as possible while you are reading.

With a lot of practice and careful preparation, you can deliver a powerful speech, even when reading. Some of the world's greatest speeches were read, but you can be assured, they weren't reading them for the first time when delivering their speech to their audience. Practice, practice, practice.

3. Using Notes - This is the most common way for remembering material. Using notes is better than reading since the speaker can have normal voice inflection and make more effective eye contact. If your notes are on the lectern, you probably won't move very far from them. If notes are in your hand, you probably won't gesture very much.

Below are some suggestions to consider if you decide to use notes:

# Use note cards. Include quotes, statistics and lists you may need, NOT paragraphs of text. VERY IMPORTANT: Number your note cards! (Just in case you drop them).
# Don't put too much information on each note card or you will find yourself reading too much. Put only a few words or key phrases.
# Leave your notes on the lectern or table and move away occasionally. Don't be afraid to move away from your notes and get out of your comfort zone. Too many speakers use the lectern to hide behind and this restricts the effective use of your entire body.
# Practice using your note cards. If you find yourself reading your note cards too much, this is a sure clue you need to reduce the amount of written text on each card. Remember, all you need are short phrases or key words, enough to "jog" your memory.
# Use pictures or picture maps to guide yourself. Pictures help you to "visualize" the key points of your speech. Use mental pictures as well to tell the story in your head. This will take some creativity, but will be worth the effort.

4. Using Visual Aids As Notes - Simple visual aids can effectively serve as headings and subheadings. Speak to the heading. Say what you want to say and move on. If you forget something, that's okay; the audience will never know unless you tell them.

Practice creating just a few meaningful headings to use and practice using only these headings as your "cues". This will take practice, but practicing using only these few words will force you to better internalize your speech.

This has four important advantages:
# You don't have to worry about what your are going to say next. Your visual aids provide you with your "cues" of your next major idea or thought. All you need to do between ideas is to use an effective transitional statement. (See my tips on using transitions).
# Having only a few key words on your visual aid allows you to move around the room without the need or feeling you need to go back to your notes. In fact, most inexperienced speakers don't move around at all. Movement also helps you to relax and adds energy to your presentations. Movement also allows the listeners to follow you and pay closer attention to you and your message. Plan your movements during your rehearsals. Decide where in your presentation it makes sense to move. If you find yourself starting to sway from side to side, take one or two steps and stop again, standing evenly on both feet. Keep your weight evenly distributed on both feet. This will help keep you from swaying.
# You can have good eye contact with your audience. You can look at your audience all the time while speaking - except for that brief moment you look at your visual aid. But that's okay since the audience will probably follow you and also look at your visual aid. This will help the audience to "see" your message as well as "hear" your message. The more you rehearse and the more you become familiar with your visual aids, the easier it becomes.
# Your audience will feel comfortable that you are on your planned track. Well designed visuals aid show the audience that you DO have a plan and have properly prepared and are following your plan.

Keep in mind, your visual aids do not have to be only word charts. They can contain diagrams, pictures or even graphs.

When you use visual aids, always introduce the visual aid BEFORE you show it using one of your transition statements. You can even use the "looking back / looking forward" transition: "Now that we have seen the ...let's now look at ...."

Regardless of which method you choose to use to remember your material, nothing will help you more that proper planning and preparation. Remember to prepare, prepare, prepare!


CandS 09.02.2011. 05:13

How do I get over fear of public speaking? I have to go on our school television tomorrow morning... I don't know if I can do it. I get extremely nervous when I speak in front of people. Help!? :(


Admin 09.02.2011. 05:13


Everyone has a fear of speaking in front of others. You've probably heard of that famous poll that found Americans fear public speaking even more than dying . . .

Let me encourage you not to fight fear so much as learn how to utilize it. Believe it or not, a speaker without any fear at all will appear boring. Nervous energy can actually be channeled into the performance (yes, it is always a 'performance' of sorts) to make you look excited and passionate about your talk. That will, in turn, excite the audience and keep them interested.

Take advantage at having some preparation time. The two best ways are video feedback and live feedback. Do practice runs and have someone video you. It can be painful to watch, but by doing so, you can proactively eliminate quirks and distracting manifestations of nervous energy that work against you. And we all have them. Pay attention to your voice, your gestures, and your posture when you watch yourself. Next, have others give you feedback. Ask them, was my message clear? Was the purpose of my message obvious? How were my eyes? Since you probably don't have time for video, at least to a practice run in front of others and get that feedback.

Eyes are crucial. This stuff about picturing your audience in their underwear is nonsense. Instead, practice randomly looking people in the eye for 3 to 5 seconds at at time. It's not easy at first, but it makes you look like a confident Pro when you do. For television, make sure you talk to the camera, not your notes, or things to the side.

Your voice is crucial. Speak loud, much louder than when talking 1 on 1 with someone. But don't shout. This gives you instant credibility and draws and keeps the attention you want.

Use notes but sparingly. Your notes should be just key or "trigger" words that remind you of what to say. Look at the word, then speak from your heart. Never ever write out a speech word for word or try to memorize word for word. Just talk. Your audience doesn't know your speech so they won't know you've made a mistake unless you tell them.

Right beforehand, stretch your jaw, lips and tongue. Warm up your voice by humming high and low a few times. Drink lots of water, but no dairy or sugar. Then walk up to that mic with your chin up and body language saying, "I'm gonna give the best talk of my life."

And you will. :)

Good luck.

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Jack 23.06.2007. 04:23

What are some effective adaptations and accommodations for English Language Learners? These can be adaptations used to meet students' needs in:
Study Skills-
and so on...



Admin 23.06.2007. 04:23

Reading: Do reading out loud (orally) with pairs or small groups so that students can interact to define words, and correct pronunciation
Have students write first in their own language for facility, then later try to put it into the new language
Correct language and spelling last. Computer work is easiest for final editing.
Have speakers speak more slowly in the language being learned, and add drama with facial and body movements.
Speaking: Allow lots of response time,praise all effort and do not correct except after in summary.
Study skills: Vocab lists and dictionaries are helpful.
Pairing students to quiz each other and stress what's important to understand is good practice!


Karl L 28.12.2008. 06:06

Learning french in a foreign country? Im an english speaker. Living in the United States. I have decided to learn French in my college but I think its stupid to do SO for one hour 3 times a week, especially when you live in a country where everyone speaks english and everything is in english.

Whats the best way to learn French living in a country that speak your mother tongue?

Karl L

Admin 28.12.2008. 06:06

That is exactly how I learn to speak English in Mexico. I was told to immerse at least for two hours a day completely in the targeted language. in your case you will do the same. which means: reed, hear (music or voice), speak, write and to (at least try to) think in the language you are trying to learn. Thik in the new language all day long or at least the thigs you know (situations or objects); so I used to shot my self in my room alone, play music, reed a magazine or play a video or a movie and repeat the parts that were of interest to me, play them back and reed (speak) them at loud, this is very important because when you hear your self, only then you become conscious of the new language; even if you are not studying during this two hours allow the sounds or fonts to get to your mind (unconscious); if you are consciously studying repeat at laud as much as you can; if you repeat 3 times you kind of get it, 7 times it gets to your unconsciousness (which is what you 'want, to become second nature to you), 12 times it passes to your medium term memory, 23 times it is becoming more steady in your memory. try to remember 1hr later what you repeated back then. when ever is possible try observing the lips, tong and the whole mouth of the speaker and of course imitate it exaggerating the movements.
start with what's ease: cartoons or kinder garden programs because those are trying to teach the children the particular language.
If you sleep with the tv turn on in a quite low volume, eventually words that you didn't even know are going to start poping out in your mind or even in your speach (that is kind of cool).
learn as many songs as you can, allways trying to pronaunce as good as you can.
this help me a lot: try making up small conversationes in your mind and look up for the words, mannerisms, slangs, or idioms as much as you can even look for the entonation and attitude.
never loose an oportunity to practice the language even if what you know is very little, take advantage of all the materials that become available to you and if you can voice record (tape or better digital), any conversation in french of a native speaker (with permission), with wich you come in contact with this will help you to study a great deal. if one day you become bored make up funny sentences and try to translate them (memorize them).
As soon as you wake up your mind is very much impressionable, is like singing a song in the early morning, it stiks to you all day long, so I have found, that 30 min, just awaken is the best for you. if we do the study sessions allways at the same time, the body gets prepared and ready for it and the learning proces is more at ease.
Try to get to know the culture of france, see as many pictures of it as you can (belive me it helps) and the last two things get some friends over the internet (native speakers, may be you could tech tem some English to) and ... enjoy this proces as much as you can, this is what matters language is very enjoyable. i know it and i am learning french to. Good loock with it pal!

Admin 02.10.2006. 09:20

I have an 18yr old son who has never been good at making friends. How can I help him to develope confidence? HE IS AT COLLEGE THIS YEAR AND IS HAVING A DIFFICULT TIME GETTING OUT THERE. HIS ROOMATE IS VERY SOCIAL AND HAS LEFT HIM IN THE DUST.

Admin 02.10.2006. 09:20

Hi I feel for your son because I had to overcome these feelings..
These are somethings I read through books..

1. Good communication and listening skills are the boosters in developing social skills. They are the ultimate skills that will help you get the most out of any social conditions.

2. Learn to read non-verbal communication such as body language, gestures and facial expressions. Body language and facial expressions are equally powerful as the words coming out of someone?s mouth. Moreover, there are certain messages that just cannot be expressed through words and these are important in your interactions with people.

3. Bear in mind that social skills are not developed overnight. It is a process that you have to undergo if you want your skills to be effective for you and your interaction with others. Focus only on one or two personality traits you have and develop them through constant exposure and practice. Changing yourself all at the same time will just backfire and you will not achieve your desired effect. Let your development work for you.

4. Become responsible for your own behavior and never be afraid to admit your mistakes. It will not only develop your social skills but it will also make you a ?real? person.

5. Listen first to what others have to say before you respond. This is where many people make a huge mistake. Nobody seems to listen anymore, everybody wants to speak. Hear first the person?s intent then offer suggestions and comments right after he made his point.

6. Become aware of your own interaction with other people. Learn from the mistakes of others by observing them and their actions, specifically those actions that prod you to respond negatively. After learning this, you may need to modify your own behavior to make most experiences pleasing for you and others.

After achieving these skills, these can also go hand in hand with good verbal communication skills by:

1. Sending clear messages and not mixing them up. Be sure that your facial expressions, gestures and words match to give the correct message.

2. An important element in communication is making eye contact. This exudes sincerity from the speaker and makes your eyes sparkle.

3. When sending messages, make your whole body talk.

4. Better be sure to use the right and appropriate words.

5. Nothing is better than having a speaker pronounce words correctly. It is so pleasing to the ear.

6. Your voice has varying volumes so use them appropriately. If you?re speaking to a small group, there is no need to modulate but if you are speaking to a larger group, be prepared to modulate and speak loud and clear.

7. Never stammer and avoid saying ?huh.? Enunciate words clearly and appropriately.

8. If you are speaking publicly and for the whole day, be prepared to animate your voice or you will bore your audience to death. Use dynamics and avoid monotones. Make your pitch raise and lower during appropriate times.

9. Use appropriate pacing. Do not speak as if you are in a hurry. This will make you appear to be unsure of what you are saying.

10. Develop your voice more. If you are already a good speaker do not stop developing even more because this will increase your effectiveness.

Hope this helps!

Dave :)


euphonium_player 23.12.2010. 03:44

Teaching english to people when you don't know their language? I've always wondered how people teach english to other people when the teacher doesn't speak the native language...Example: My friend's mom teaching english to spanish speakers, but does not speak spanish at all..How do they teach it to them??

Thanks in advanced!! (:


Admin 23.12.2010. 03:44

You have to be very loud, always. I don't know why, but when they can hear it like that they register the new language more easily. They have to get accustomed to the intonation of an English speaking voice. Then the students will feel more at ease to this new foreign sound and start communicating back.
Speak slowly and clearly and try to repeat as many words as possible. Make sure they hear every nuance in a word.
Make the whole class repeat it aloud, slowly
Use only English all the time! Introduce them to a new dimension, (just a classroom), where English is the norm.
Consider them toddlers who know no language at all.
Teach them songs at the end of the class. Singing in a foreign language will make them more familiar with the mood or emotion the words convey.
Smile a lot. It is important you become an approachable friend
Wear bright colors to grab their attention
Use many hand gestures, body movements and facial expressions.


Aaron 24.03.2012. 16:55

How to analyse Barak Obama's speech...? Rhetorical devices used.. there effects,
answer to the checklist below:
Physical ? Gestures and Eye Contact
Did the speaker?s posture display confidence and poise?
Were gestures natural, timely, and complementary?
Were gestures easy to see?
Does the speaker have any distracting mannerisms?
Was eye contact effective in connecting the speaker to the whole audience?
Vocal Variety
Was the speaker easy to hear?
Were loud and soft variations used appropriately?
Was the pace varied? Was it slow enough overall to be understandable?
Were pauses used to aid understandability, heighten excitement, or provide drama?
Was the language appropriate for the audience?
Did the speaker articulate clearly?
Were sentences short and easy to understand?
Was technical jargon or unnecessarily complex language used?
What rhetorical devices were used? e.g. repetition, alliteration, the rule of three, etc.


Admin 24.03.2012. 16:55

The main thing about speeches is to look for 'buzz words' within the body of the speech.

This speech by Winston Churchill at the Congress is full of 'buzz words' which are intended to inspire the listeners to make them want more.


Nick 28.12.2009. 10:37

What is projection? Explain and include an example.? What is projection? Explain and include an example.


Admin 28.12.2009. 10:37

the word can mean different things depending on the context in which it's used. "the projection machine in the movie theater is broken" is one meaning. "The speaker at the reception had really poor projection" is another meaning.

For people, projection means speaking to a group and how well your voice, attitude, and other qualities get through to the listeners. If a soft spoken person speaks to a group and uses no body language, his/her projection would be considered to be poor. If a person speaks to a group using an appropriately loud voice combined with body language, the person's projection would be considered to be much better.

Details, details. What kind of projection are you talking about? Movies, people, machines, ghosts, ?


Blue Savannah Girl 10.03.2009. 03:26

Out of all the questions here - please look at mine? I've got a job interview tomorrow for a receptionist position at a tanning salon. Not my dream job but hey beggars can't be choosers and there's not many jobs just now so it would be nice to get it. Dont think it will be too tasking hopefully but I'm bit nervous about how to make a great impression so they offer me the job! Any advice appreciated x

Blue Savannah Girl

Admin 10.03.2009. 03:26

What does my body language tell my interviewer?
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It begins even before you say your first word. They?ll be sizing you up as you walk across the room to shake hands. Be conscious of how you look and what you?re doing, and try not to overlook the verbal and non-verbal signals you?re sending out in the rush to parade your carefully prepared answers before them.

Pace yourself
Speak deliberately more slowly than you would normally. There?s a trick here. You?ll be revved up as you go in, so you will naturally speak more quickly than normal. If you concentrate on pronouncing your words individually, you?ll actually be speaking at a normal speed.

Think of good speakers you?ve experienced throughout your education. You?ll remember the ones who were more focused and engaging. That?s not to say they were the funniest or loudest or most entertaining. But they were almost certainly the most animated. Focus. You?re not here to entertain ? so leave the jokes at the door ? but you are here to look like you want the job. Concentrate on that and let your commitment and energy shine through.

Non-verbal signals
A firm but not crushing handshake is the one to go for. The wet fish technique is a guaranteed turn off. Also, try to ensure your hands are dry and warm ? as natural as possible. If you tend to perspire under stress, try to run your hands under cold water before going in and if stress makes your skin cold, do the opposite.

Don?t slouch in your chair, whether in reception or the interview room. Slouching says ?I don?t care? and should be reserved for lazy Sundays on the sofa. Walk and sit up straight. If you?re worried about your posture, sit naturally in front of a mirror at home and see how you look. Practice sitting in a more vertical position and make a mental note of how it feels, so you can replicate it in the interview.

Always look the questioner in the eye, but not in a way that could have you sectioned. Be confident, and don?t stare past your questioner or at the floor. Avoid glancing nervously around the room as this is the classic sign of someone with something to hide. If there is more than one interviewer, make sure you look at each of them when answering questions, and keep your eyes on their face, not straying to other parts of their body (if you know what I mean!).

To find out what to do with your hands, watch yourself in a mirror of the office window when you?re on the phone. You?ll use some of the same gestures when you?re talking. It?s fine to gesture with your hands, but don?t overdo it so you look like you?re directing traffic.

Don?t fidget and don?t play around with your hair, pen, nails, chair, jiggle your knees, tap your leg or anything else. It drives people crazy and will distract them from what you?re saying.

Be aware of how you are sitting, moving and the general impression you?re giving out. So smile occasionally; it will make you all feel better.

What should I wear to my job interview?
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Part of preparing for a job interview is making sure you are going to come across as a good addition to their company. Appearances shouldn?t matter, but the plain fact is that you are often judged before you?ve even uttered a word.

Direct approaches (specifically phoning to check the dress code) or indirect approaches (standing outside the office a few days before your interview to check the people coming and going) are both valid ways of determining the general rules.

Aim to dress one level up from what you would expect to be wearing if you got the job. It hints at your desire to progress and succeed within their company. If in doubt, always go for a classic plain business suit. Both male and female versions come in all shapes and sizes and can be picked up relatively cheaply. Combined with a clean shirt and preferably a tie, you?re unlikely to feel out of place.

Essentially, if you feel comfortably, you?ll act comfortably which is vital in a pressure interview situation.

Dressing the part is never something that will get you the job, regardless of how clean your shirt or shiny your shoes. However, it could put the employer off if you fail to follow some basic rules:

? Not too casual - If you get the vibe that casual is OK then stay on the smart side of casual. Ripped jeans, threadbare t-shirts and scruffy trainers should all be left at home. A smart pair of jeans and an open necked shirt is the bare minimum that is expected.

? No headwear ? Under no circumstances wear a cap, beanie or hoodie to an interview ? you?ll look like you?ve got something to hide. There are obvious religious and medical exceptions to this rule.

? Get the right fit ? If you?ve had to borrow an ill-fitting suit for an interview, or just generally like to wear your clothes a little too loose or tight, try and find something a little more regular.

? No flashing ? Although it may work in certain industries, cleavage and midriffs should be


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