Top 7 Ways to Succeed in the Business of Speaking

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Top 7 Ways to Succeed in the Business of Speaking

By: Sandra Schrift

How attractive are you as a speaker? No, your looks, but your consistent ability to provide a quality presentation, attract clients, and be irresistibly attractive to meeting planners and speaker bureaus? Below are some useful tips that I learned while owning a national, professional speakers bureau for 13 years.

1.) Presentation - do you have something interesting, inspiring, and useful to share with audiences? Be mindful of your voice (keep it deep and low pitched), your personality and attitude (positive), your tone (soft, loud. Encouraging as needed), your style, your vocabulary.

2.) Connection - how quickly do you get to the core of your audience's problems and challenges? Skip what is between their ears and go straight to their hearts.

3.) Passion - do you love what you do? Develop a niche or specialty that you truly enjoy ... and are good at.

4.) Network - enhance your speaking career by networking with 50 or more other speakers. They become your referral sources. Join the National Speakers Association - a 4,000 member organization that holds conferences and has local chapters to help you with your marketing skills and networking. Call 480-968-2552 (Arizona)

5.) Products - write a book, booklet(s), create audio tapes, video tapes, CD/ROM. Having products will catapult your speaking career and make you more valuable to your clients. This "passive" income is like having frosting on the cake.

6.) Value added - become known as a value added speaker. Provide handouts, attend the cocktail reception before your program, stay after your speech, offer follow-up teleclasses, offer your consulting services, be a facilitator.

7.) Hire a Coach - The Olympic Games remind us that a world-class athlete is surrounded by a number of people whose function is to keep him/her on track. No serious athlete or professional speaker would expect to progress very far without a COACH.

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Sandra Schrift 13 year speaker bureau owner and now career coach to emerging and veteran public speakers who want to "grow" a profitable speaking business. I also work with business professionals and organizations who want to master their presentations. To find out How to Become a Highly Paid Professional Speaker, go to Do you have a question about your speaking skills or presentations? I will answer your top question at: "Ask Coach Sandra" Join my free bi-weekly Monday Morning Mindfulness ezine


bluegirl 25.04.2007. 07:32

What are the top tips for being a successful person in career, finance and enterprises? I am a young professional and want to improve my earning power, learning, job promotion chances or identifying a new exciting career goal and begin saving and investing personal finances for future use. My current job feels like a dead end with little satisfaction and long, irregular working hours including weekends.


Admin 25.04.2007. 07:32

Hey I just posted this article on my blog last night -- 10 career tips for young professionals. I think it will help...

1. People go, the relationships stay. This one is simple: the momentum of a long term partnership carries more force than a single individual. This goes both ways. If you are a new acccount manager with changes in mind, be patient. If you plan on abusing your leverage as a client, or you are a vendor and want to haze the new client, be warned. Your counterpart can have you removed from the account on a whim. Why? Because the relationship is more important than you.

2. When emailing, practice the good news sandwich. One quality I don't normally associate with email is grace. To be graceful in business may have connotations of weakness, or worse, passive aggressiveness. However a truly graceful email gives the courtesy of introduction and consideration, delivers a bit of bad news in the middle and exits with reminder of good faith and potential upside that may come in the future.

3. Use silence in negotiation (particularly the beginning). When possible, let the other party speak first in negotiation. I'm not talking about who says "hello" first. I am referring to the numbers part. Learn to wait, and artfully pause after a price quote, and you'll find yourself in a much better situation than if you spouted off the first number that comes to you.

4. Talk about others as if they are standing next to you. Do this and you'll sleep like a baby. Recognize it in others and give them your trust. Engaging in gossip is about as thrilling as the tabloids in the supermarket checkout line. It's OK to read once in a while, just don't subscribe to them.

5. Managers clean up messes. This is a big one, because there is a long line of management jobs between you and the CEO. Odds are, you'll be a manager until you *gulp* retire. Not all of us get promoted to the big golf course in the sky after 10 years of service. Nope, we get promoted to another level of middle management. This is reality, and if you negotiate accordingly you'll continue to scale your compensation. What most people don't realize is the higher up you go in management, the bigger the messes you will be expected to clean up.

6. Always make it personal. And don't be fake. Life is too short to pick up the phone at work and pretend to care. Do you best to get to know the person on the other end of the line, email or lunch table. Relationship building will pay dividends in conjunction with hard work. Be the buddy who gets nothing done and this will blow up in your face.

7. Never kiss up and kick down. This one is harder than most people will admit. However, it is crucial in any vertical organization to be respectful of people who hold positions above and below you. It's counterintuitive to seek anything but number one, but your superiors will notice that you work well with others. Remember it's much better to be talked about in a positive light than talking yourself up in front of others, above or below you.

8. Under promise, over deliver -- but don't sandbag. Being conservative is good, but we're all in it to succeed. This is America right? Aren't we all entitled to be Rockefeller's if we put our minds to it? Wrong. Shoot for the moon, but don't promise pictures before you get there. At the same time, they hired you to try your best and that means really trying. Sandbag your numbers/goals and it will become clear early on that you don't have the capacity to self manage.

9. Learn to say no. Unless you work with a company of 10 people or smaller (and I have), learn to prioritize. If you have too many "high priority" items, either re-prioritize, request that a few items get moved off your plate, or flat out say "I don't have the time." Everything with your name on it is expected to be of good quality. Take on too much and two things happen: you get known as the workhorse and overall quality of output goes down.

10. Be honest. If you don't know, say so. Delivering luke warm news for weeks or months instead of catching a load a bricks in one shot is a huge mistake. This goes for clients, vendors and managers. In the end, the recipient of the bad news you've been harboring will thank you for hearing the news sooner than later.


fpa06mr 14.08.2008. 20:55

why is american cannabis law so harsh? it seems like america is way over the top on weed punishments, when it is a relatively mild drug? i am in england so i dont know about this stuff.

and by mild i mean you don't get people stealing cars to pay for weed addictions in the way that you do for something like heroin, i know it is harmful.
well why isn't alcohol seen as the gateway drug?
i bet people are exposed to alcohol before mairjuana...


Admin 14.08.2008. 20:55

1. American culture is uptight and moralistic.

2. The "media" consensus is that people who smoke pot are losers, druggies, pot heads, slackers, morally bankrupt and sub-human.

3. Most Americans do not agree with this assessment, but they are generally too lazy or to distracted to speak up.

4. The "Drug Wars" are a big (and I mean really big) business. We're talking billions and billions of dollars here. This so called war employs thousands of people as DEA, law enforcement, prison guards, etc. These folks are not interested in losing their jobs or perks.

5. Law enforcement, through something called "forfeiture" can confiscate and keep property (think houses, cars) and money with little or no oversight. This amounts to millions of dollars in the pockets of police, and they don't want to lose this funding.

6. Dear old paranoid President Nixon (of bygone years), ignored the findings of the very commission he set up to study "marijuana" when they "found" that "marijuana" ought to be legalized. He tore up the study (the Shafer Report), and launched a new volley in War on Drugs, aimed at the counter culture (hippies, et al), mostly because they were protesting the war in Viet Nam.

7. The mainstream media tends to play up skewed studies which show the "harm" cannabis causes, and ignores or downplay studies that show the benefits (medicinal and otherwise) of cannabis.

8. Legislators are beholding to corporate interests which are not served by making cannabis legal, in spite of the fact that most Americans think it should be legalized.

9. Most people who ingest cannabis have also been brainwashed and think they are doing something wrong, so they do not speak up. Also, it's dangerous to speak up because you can be harassed or arrested.

10. Cannabis is (unreasonably) classified as a Schedule 1 drug:

? The drug or other substance has a high potential for abuse.

? The drug or other substance has no currently accepted medical use in treatment in the United States.

? There is a lack of accepted safety for use of the drug or other substance under medical supervision.

? Examples of Schedule I substances include heroin, lysergic acid diethylamide (LSD), marijuana, and methaqualone.

11. The Federal Government is deathly afraid of the Medical Cannabis movement, because if it succeeds, they would have to reclassify cannabis, which would lead to more studies which would show how good cannabis really is for the body, and then they would have to admit they were wrong. Since they are, for the most part, pig headed, they are reluctant to do this.

12. The harsh laws of arrest and seizure makes it easy to oppress minorities. 830,000+ arrests each year 730,000 for simple cannabis possession. One out of every 100 Americans is in jail.

13. We are living in a proto-fascist state. And I can only pray to the Goddess that people will wake up soon before it's too late (if it isn't already).

14. Be happy you are in England. There are a lot of jerks there too, but not as many as here, apparently.


George A 13.06.2013. 14:46

Sales jobs: What do they exactly mean when they say you should develop & maintain new client relationships? What do they exactly mean when they require you to develop and maintain new client relationships? lets say at a car dealership as well as real estate sales??(I know they differ!) Note:I know how to provide top notch customer service in retail(Men's clothes) but in my previous experience I wasn't really (directly) required to develop & maintain any real relationships with customers! cause it was a very big store! in a touristy area. I'm really very shy and keep to my
self. I never had many friends even though I'm social deep down, I know this means I have a couple of issues .(& I'm working on them with a therapist!) A good answer would be welcomed!! please be very detailed & specific! like your explaining this to guy who just arrived from the wilderness!! or as though your explaining this to a kid! (I'm not mentally challenged,aggressive or creepy or *ucked up at all! in fact I'm more intelligent than 97% people but as it being the case with overly intelligent people being a little eccentric, & cause I was dyslexic as a kid my parents didn't like that and treated me like I was retarded so hence my socialization problem!) just a shy loner, much like a typical sci-fi geek!(sheldon cooper??lol) and in need of a good sales job! I really have good common sense in non-social matters and have good etiquette too!
A geeky man who's totally bourgeois!! you don't see that everyday! lol

Thank you.
P.s. Please don't laugh. this is really a big problem for me. also I'd welcome recommendations on good sites and books in this regard. Cheers

George A

Admin 13.06.2013. 14:46

George, you sound like a fun person. Did you know that many famous people like movie stars, politicians, and even a therapist may feel overtly insecure? On stage comedians are as a group ultra-fearful of societal interaction. There?s no good reason that regular blokes such as us can?t succeed in the field of sales. My recommendations include the following:
1.)?Man-up? ? Take inventory of your weaknesses and strengths. You are well on the way to accomplishing this recommended action by identifying some personality weaknesses. I would have liked to hear more about your strengths.
2.)Develop a plan of personality modification- When taking a trip; it is important to know where you are going. If you do not know where you are going, you won?t know how to get there, or even know when you?ve arrived. Apply the ?SMART? Goal principles to your plan?
-S- Be specific.
-M- The plan goals should be Measurable in terms of progress.
-A- Your stepping stones to goal achievement should be ACTION oriented? I will.
-T- The plan should be TIME BASED. Choose a time-frame to accomplish your goal.
3.)Work your plan- Pin a copy to your mirror; keep a copy in your pocket or under your cap.
4.) Visualize success- This is a very powerful ingredient to realization and goal attainment.
5.)Purchase 500 high quality business cards and hand them out frequently.
6.)Develop and maintain new client relationships- Volunteer some of your time for a worthy charity such as a church or club. You?ll interact with a new group of potential clients and develop lasting friendships.
7.)Join a Speakers Bureau- Many highly educated, articulate, and well-spoken individuals are deathly afraid to speak in a group setting. I was afraid. The fear of swimming can be overcome by putting one foot in the water. I say, jump into the water; public speaking is a fun and a powerful confidence building weapon. The more times that you speak in a group the more that you will want to talk. Success begets success.
8.)Read How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. It?s old school reading, but a well-written best seller chock full of positive pearls of wisdom.
Well my friend- That?s all that I have to offer from my own experiences as a successful real estate salesperson and information speaker. Perhaps I will run across you in therapy (That?s also a great tool to gain insight and carves a path to achieving personal growth). Best wishes for your success. Tally-ho-


^__^ 20.01.2012. 22:20

I think I want to become a pornstar?! IM CONFUSED HELP? Okay, I don't know whats going on with me recently. I get fantastic grades, I've never even had my first kiss, I dont date because I think teenage dating is useless. I dont even wear bikinis or skirts that go above my knees, or tank tops without something over them. I dont wear too much makeup or anything. I am not a slut in any way shape or form. Okay?

Well a few days ago I decided to watch porn since I hadn't in a few months. And I saw a video of this girl Tori Black and shes drop dead goregous. To be honest I'm kind of jealous of her. Shes from Seattle, like me. She even went to the same college as my brother (o___O maybe they've met eachother). Anyways, A lot of guys like her and I always see videos of her just hanging out with her friends and it seems like she lives such a glamorous life. So Idk would it be kind of fun to be a pornstar? I know not for everyone... Idk whats wrong with me. I want to have children someday and when being a pornstar, that might be difficult. dating would even be difficult. Sex would loose its true meaning. You are much much more likely to get diseases. People look down on you. My family would all probably never even speak to me again. Most pornstars turn to drugs and alcohol to numb themselves (because they are ashamed).

Origionally I wanted to be a general dentist. But, not trying to brag or anything but I'm very attractive and It would be cool to model. I've been stopped by people in the modelling business a lot of times, them giving me their cards, ect. Ive gotten letters from pageant and modeling agencies, inviting me to be a part of their business.

I am 14 years old in the 8th grade. I have dark brown shoulder length curly fluffy hair. I have honey light brown eyes. I have high cheek bones and I wear a 36 or 38 C cup (I think, usually I can just look at an item of clothing and tell if it fits or not without looking at the tag thingy XD) I am 5'4.5". My doctor said I was probably done growing though. I have an hourglass figure. I wear a size 7 shoe (small feet). I have full lips and a smallish nose. My face is circular and I have a nice jawline. I have light tannish skin. I think my eyes and legs are my best feature though, even though I never show my legs. I know I would never really become a pornstar, that is insane. My teenage hormones are just making me crazy. Although I do masturbate a lot and i have since I was probably 9 (I was exposed to porn at an early age from these older bad kids in my neighborhood). I even use my brush handle as a dildo -_______-. I know I would never become a pornstar, or do anything that degrading, but should I look into pageants or something? And maybe model for commercials or magazines or adversizments or something. That would be so cool. Then I could still be a general dentist and go to a nice college when I graduate from highschool. What should I do? I need some advice. Thanks x)


Admin 20.01.2012. 22:20

So you have determined that you will not be a porn star, despite your inner desires, and you want a little direction. You are correct that it is your hormones which is causing the sexual urges but you are also noting the other symptoms of puberty - mainly insecurity. Don't worry everyone, male or female, has to deal with the self assurance issues as they grow.
So let me start by letting you know that STD's are no more common than they are in the general populations. In truth you are probably less likely to get an STD once you are professionally represented and employed within the porn industry. This is because the health issues within the professional porn industry is carefully monitored and tested on a regular schedule, where in the general population only gets tested if symptoms appear. Not only that but once an STD is found in the porn industry, all those who interacted with that actor / actress are notified and tested prior to interacting again. Professional baseball is a higher risk business than porn do to the physical injuries which occur. The difficult part is getting yourself a representative and not getting in with someone who "claims" to be a professional.Don't trust the person who hands you a card. Cards are cheep and worthless, get their representation license number and run that through the system to confirm they are a representative prior to even meeting with him/her. But since you have determined you are not going into porn, all of that is mute anyway.

So what should you do? Modeling? Beauty pageants? Good question. You are 14 and your life is just beginning to change. You are developing a woman's attractiveness and are likely to knock the socks off most guys you come into contact with (most young women do), but at 14 you need to concentrate on 2 things, and just these 2 things. If you do this then you will have a much better life than the majority of people out there.
1) Get good grades in school. This is the key step to starting college and developing an independent life where you can afford to do what you want. Scholarships and employment opportunities flock to those with the best grades. A porn star gets a couple million a year but only works for an average of 5 years. A Professional Sports player gets several million a year for an average period of under 10 years. A company executive running the sport earns a couple billion a year for the 40+years she works. I say shoot for the top and get the grades to prove you can do the job.
2) Be happy with who you are! Porn stars turn to drugs because their self esteem drops. Sports stars often crash on drugs trying to be something they are not. If you are happy with who you are then life is great. But being happy with who you are is always a struggle. Most will find that when someone loves you for who you are, it is much easier to be happy with who you are.

Since number 2 is actually harder to achieve than the good grades, start socializing and meeting people. Some will be jerks, most will be morons, and often they will be insulting but if you find the one who loves you, life becomes much more rewarding and easier to succeed.
Don't worry so much about your career right now, Your actual career will not develop until another 10 years have passed. Just work on 1 and 2.

I wish you the best no matter what path life takes you! :-)


mira 05.12.2012. 06:13

Naviance, scholarships,, colleges, GE.. !? Ok so i am new in the U.S. (i'm in CA state) and currently a sophomore. i keep hearing all those terms and i have absolutely no idea what they are because in the high school system in my country, we dont have all those complicated stuff (we just go to classes, take tests, succeed or fail, then graduate & choose what major we want and thats it!)
So plz help me by explaining to me the high school system in America and let me know what are the benefits of each word i said above in my question.. Btw i wanna become a veterinarian. My grades are pretty good (i get A's in all my classes & rarely B's). i take 6 classes (bio, wld history, english 2, PE, geo, ceramics).
Are those enough classes or should i take more? How? Should i take AP classes (which i also dunno what AP means).. Or what?!
What should i do exactly to graduate from high school and go directly to university for few years & then become a vet.?
I know i asked lots of questions but i'm really confused and when i asked my counselor she confused me more..!
Thanks a lot! Waiting for ur help.. (:


Admin 05.12.2012. 06:13

Christine, the high-level process itself is the same here. Go to class, take tests, succeed or fail, graduate (hopefully), go to college/choose your major. I don't know where you are from but one huge thing that goes on here is competitiveness for admission to top-tier schools. And if you want to go to one, you need to research the ones that interest you to learn what they look for in an incoming student (and they are smart enough to know grades are not the full picture of someone) and then work to have the things they look for. These things can include involvement in sports, student government, clubs, activities that show leadership, community service, and so on.

To get into 4-year universities here you also need to take a college admissions test - the SAT or the ACT. Scores needed on these tests to be considered for admission are usually listed on each university's website. Some will list a minimum score while others will speak to the average score of those they have admitted in the past. While you are on the websites of universities you are interested in, be sure to check out their calendars for important dates. If you want to go directly from high school to college, you need to have your college application in to each college by their deadline. Almost all college admission applications include a required essay. It would very wise to read up on college admission essays as they can be an important factor in determining your admission. And don't wait until the last minute to write them.

AP classes can be perceived in many good ways by colleges - especially selective colleges (Stanford, as an example of a selective college, accepted only 7% of those who applied in 2011). Depending on the admissions person it could show drive, ambition, and more. If you can handle AP courses, you should take them. AP means Advanced Placement. You can (and should) sit for the AP exam associated with the subjects you take AP courses for. Learn all about AP stuff here:

As for scholarships, well, you have to pay for college and it's very expensive. You can find out how much, again, by checking the sites of the universities that interest you. Many are more than $100,000 for the 4 years it will take for you to get your Bachelor's degree. So, that's where scholarships come in. Read all the high-level stuff on scholarships here:

FastWeb is just a website (a business) that helps you to find scholarships you can apply for. You should look at this now so that you see what kinds of things you need to have to qualify for a scholarship and you can work to get these things before you need to actually apply for a scholarship. Important to note though, even if you qualify, doesn't mean you will get it. Read up on this and it will make sense.

Naviance I can't help with. I actually did some consulting for them but never had access to their tools as a high school student so I am not sure how those tools can help you. I know some of their tools are for helping you plan for college. Start here:

There's a start. Hope it helps. Just one piece of advice - don't rely on this venue or anyone other than yourself to get your answers. Use the internet. Search for all this stuff (and all the things that your searching will lead you to). Help yourself by educating yourself. Competition is stiff if you want into a good college so it's in your best interest and the interest of your future to dive in - and the sooner the better. Really driven students (or those driven by their parents) start diving into all of this before they even get to high school to help make sure they have the "stuff" to get a "yes" from one of the their top-choice colleges.

Best of luck.


harlyhar 18.09.2012. 15:01

Yet another victory for democrats? 9/17/12
( - The Social Security Administration has released new data revealing that 8,786,049 American workers are collecting federal disability insurance payments in September. That sets yet another record for the number of Americans on disability.

The dems will never give up.

Democrat President Wilson (1913-1918) said, ?You are not here merely to make a living. You are here to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, and with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world. You impoverish yourself if you forget this errand.? He may have been the first democrat to appreciate the potential use of multiculturalism (?If it?s white or American, trash it!?) in deconstructing the Constitution, saying, ?No nation is fit to sit in judgment upon any other nation.? Obama put it this way: ?Every nation is exceptional in its own way.?

Democrat President Roosevelt ?let it all hang out? in his speech before Congress on January 11, 1944:
?We have accepted, so to speak, a second Bill of Rights...? [which included]:
-The right to earn enough to provide adequate food and clothing and recreation
-The right of every family to a decent home
-The right to adequate medical care and the opportunity to achieve and enjoy good health
-The right to adequate protection from the economic fears of old age, sickness, accident, and unemployment.

LBJ?s Great Society became the largest redistribution of wealth program in our history. Obama is trying to ?outperform? LBJ.

Because of the Internet, talk radio and Fox News (all non-existent a generation ago!) today we know that democrats have been gradually changing America into a European style welfare state.
-2/4/10 Gallup poll: 61% of liberals have a positive view of socialism.
-6/2/11 Gallup poll: 71% of democrats favor re-distributing wealth.
-9/6-9/2012 Those who believe government should have more control over our lives: Republicans 15%; Independants, 29%; Democrats 67%.
-Now they have national health care, the foundation of all welfare states.

The winners in this ?change? are democrat politicians and unions: Top All-Time Donors, 1989-2012:
-Of the top twenty political contributors between 1989 and 2012 twelve are unions; they give less than 5% to Republicans; only six of those top twenty are corporations who gave about 40% to democrats (Goldman Sachs gave 56% of its cash to democrats).
-The NEA (?teachers? union) gave $43,613,263: 71% went to democrats, 5% to Republicans.
-The AFT (?teachers? union) gave $34,698,466: 86% went to democrats, 0% to Republicans.
-The American Federation of State, County and Municipal Employees gave $61,610,080: 73% went to democrats, 0% to Republicans.

10/21/10 Wall Street Journal: The American Federation of State, County and Municipal Employees is now the biggest outside spender of the 2010 elections. It gave 0% to Republicans between 1989 and 2012.

And what do the unions get in ?pay back??

8/13/10 USA Today: The compensation gap between federal and private workers has doubled in the past decade. Federal civil servants earned average pay and benefits of $123,049 in 2009 while private workers made $61,051 in total compensation, according to the Bureau of Economic Analysis.

7/8/11 U. S. News Report ( The actual number of private sector jobs decreased since 2008. Government jobs increased.

-6/8/12 Investors Business Daily: ?Private-sector jobs are still down by 4.6 million, or 4%, from January 2008, when overall employment peaked. Meanwhile government jobs are down just 407,000, or 1.8%.?

3/31/10, ?Postmaster Potter has made headway in reducing work hours and the costs of benefits and pensions, but the average postal employee still makes $83,000 in salary and benefits a year, placing postal workers among the highest-paid government employees.?

6/11/12 Cato Institute ( ...teacher employment has exploded; the public school workforce has grown 11 times faster than student enrollment over the last 40 years; on a per pupil basis, the inflation-adjusted average cost of a K-12 education has gone from about $55,000 to about $150,000.?

8/15/12 USA Today/Gannet:
-21,000+ retired federal workers receive lifetime government pensions of $100,000+.
-Economist Veronique de Rugy (Mercatus Center): Average federal pensions, $32,824; state and local government pensions, $24,373; military, $22,492; ExxonMobilExxon Corporation (one of the best remaining private pensions), $18,250.
-Pension payments cost $70 billion last year, plus $13 billion for retiree health care. Taxpayers face a future $2 trillion unfunded liability to cover those programs..


Admin 18.09.2012. 15:01

The Democrat Party has a consistent long term strategy of consolidating permanent power through the creation of huge voter base which is irrevocably dependent on government.

They are very close to succeeding -- and must be stopped if we are to save the Republic.


Aaron 25.01.2012. 01:13

Should I take the offer to Harvard University? I got accepted into Harvard University with a scholarship (free tuition.) I might study business or law or double major but i'm not sure. I had a 4.7 GPA and i had really high SAT scores. I think i also got accepted because I'm African American, and they need new people because most African Americans dont go to ivy league schools. Speaking of being an African American myself, the problem is that I really enjoy rapping, and making songs, and i think that could be a good career for me. I think that if I try hard enough, I could get a few record deals that could make me successful and famous. I really want to go to Harvard too, because I really want to get a degree in something that I like, but I also like rapping, so i don't know what to do! What should I do? I've been rapping since I was 10 and everybody likes my rapping and i've made some songs and got good money to support myself by selling Cd's but i think i could make it big.


Admin 25.01.2012. 01:13

Ok well congratulations first of all for being accepted into one of the top 5 universities in the whole world.

Now you're obviously very clever so please dont degrade yourself by thinking you only got in because your ethnicity if anything they're proud of you for bucking the trend of the average african american who seem to be achieving much lower. I dont believe race has anything to do with it and you shouldn't live your life thinking this way, no one owes you anything just because your african american we are all treated fairly nowadays.

Now as for your rapping I 100% agree that you should pursue this is this is what you enjoy. However going to university will not damage this infact if anything it will more than likely help. The rest of the students at Harvard are generally from well to do backgrounds, its not money that has got them in its just that their parents could afford to send them to the best schools which means the best education generally. My point is that you'll make lots of contact at harvard infact some people of the peoples parents will probably be well established within the music industry there.

Lastly you need to remember that alot of people try to make it in the music business and unfortunately dont succeed so you need to be realistic. Go to university acquire your business and law degree as a solid back up so if your music does not work out you are still set and haven't missed out on a fantastic opportunity. Also like I said some of families there will be excellent contacts for you to get into the music industry or some of your fellow students may be the future CEO's of such companies.

Again congratulations you should be very proud, enjoy oxford do your music career whilst your then and I look forward to either seeing you in a court room or on TV. (remember me haha)


Aaron 06.09.2010. 03:10

Exchange student to Korea??? :O? Ok- so im moving to South Korea in February. I'm going to be attending a public high school, I speak very little korean, and im 15 years old (western years). Right now im a sophomore in a U.S. high school. PLEASE give me any info you can about high school life, the people (my age plzzz!), and anything else you can to help me! Thanks! :D
**Please give me ALL info about whatever your talking about. I need all the help I can get.
*I'm not korean and would like to know more about like what kids do for fun, dating???, and stuff like that. :)


Admin 06.09.2010. 03:10

Alright, I'm going to give you my personal experience. I was born and raised in Korea and came to America when I was 9 years old. I couldn't speak or understand a single word in English. Gradually, I became extremely fluent English and switched English as my primary language instead of Korean. Then, I moved back to Korea to live with my aunt when I was 16 years old and attended high school there. You have no idea how easy the American education system is compare to Korea. Even though I was 9 years old, I was top of my class since I learned all the information an year or two ago. I just had problem communicating and reading, but if you did your work and minded your business, getting an A was easy. American education is a joke in Korea (I am not lying)... Luckily, I was fluent in writing and reading in Korean since I was born and raised there, but my Korean was sadly in the Elementary level. I couldn't compete with the high schoolers and they were two years ahead in the education level compare to America. The way I word, doesn't make it seem too bad... 2 years pssh, but the Korean education system is 10x harder. It's not some basic reading and solving math problems like it is in America. For example, math in America have problems already worded for you... It's like state the log for blah or solve this problem... In Korea, every god damn question, you would have to read the words in the paragraph and try to solve the bloody question using the given information. I just finished AP Cal A in America but in Korea, they were doing Cal B/C shit... WTF I had to have no life just to keep my academics standard, go to a lot of after class tutor/rooms and then study even more since in Korea, you had to take a test that determines whether you're going to go to a good college or not. My daily routine was wake up at 7, take the bus, finish school around 3, go to after class tutor till 6, hagwon till 8, then study till 11, and sleep... That was me and I am pretty sure your routine won't be like this. You must understand, I was fluent in Korean and so they expected nothing less as if I was a Korean student there my whole life; that I "supposedly" received the education in America. Teachers didn't give me any lenience... T_T

You on the other can't speak Korean, so I doubt you can read or write also... Teachers will understand that you were raised in America. You will receive special attention and care from your teacher they will not judge you too harshly. If you're Korean, then you better learn the language quickly. Teachers can seem to comprehend that Korean Americans are not fluent in Korean but English and that they were raised in America and not Korea. It's totally two different culture that are not similar at all...

If you're not Korean, they will give you a lot of lenience and make you take classes that can benefit you; like English. Judging by your age, and the fact you're moving to Korea, I am going to assume you are Korean. My advice, study a lot and you will succeed. Teachers will understand sooner or later. If you're not Korean, go to a public school that is taught in English. best of luck (P.S, I'm 20 and currently live in America again. I moved back after I graduated, but most likely move back to Korea).


Geckolion 03.08.2006. 10:50

UC Santa Cruz students and grads only please.? Maybe this isn't the best place to ask for this, but I am a little unconventional.
I am seriously considering going to UCSC. I just wanted the students opinion about the school.
Perhaps you could also list your year, major, and intended career?

In depth answers preferred, but beggars can't be choosers!


Admin 03.08.2006. 10:50

Hi, I'm a junior undergrad, History of Art and Visual Culture major (HAVC), and I have NO idea what I want to do with it but I love art so..
I'm actually a tour guide at the school, which is easy because the campus is so beautiful it speaks for itself. It is in Santa Cruz, but it is very seperated from the town, set on top of a hill in between a state park and a city park, which creates panaramic views of the Monterey Bay.
There are 10 residential colleges within the university. This design is modeled after Oxford in England, and tries (and I believe succeeds) in creating a small liberal arts feeling in a large UC. Each college has a theme or a motto, a distinct architectural style and feeling. You can experience all of these by going to each of their sites on the webpage.
The students, in my experience, are really friendly, outgoing, playful, and openminded, but there are always exceptions.
Academics: the sciences get the most money, which also make them some of the best in the world (astrophysics is #1, we are the only UC with a contract with NASA). We also have a great engineering program. Our art major is very impacted so it's hard to get into a class if your not an art or HAVC (haha!) major. The reason for this is because the art department is small and they (for some reason) want to keep it that way. Our film department is also pretty impacted, a lot of film majors here.
oh, so top ten majors (not 100% sure about the rankings):
1: psychology : in some of the classes you have to do a certain number of hours of experiments where grad students use you to help their research
2: business management and economics : flannery is a cool teacher
3: art : I'm taking my first in the fall, but from my friends' projects it looks cool.
4: literature
5: history : I've taken 2 classes and loved them both
7: film and digital media
8: sociology
9: anthropology
10: environmental studies

you can take 25% of your classes pass fail, I havn't taken any p/f yet. I don't feel the need to. The quarter system (3 classes for 11 weeks) makes it hard to get behind, and you never feel overwhelmed since you only have 3 classes.
the campus is not very car friendly, though. For example, freshman and sophmores are not allowed to have cars on campus. But there is an excellent city bus system.
It is mainly an undergraduate school, with less than 10% of the students in graduate school.
there are deer! everywhere. and racoons and bobcats and mountain lions (never seen one), and lots of squirrels and birds.
It does take a while to get to San Francisco, and it's less than 75 degrees for 3/4 of the year.
I mean, you are getting a UC education. Personally, I think UCSC is better school academically than a majority of people give it credit for.
oh, and I don't smoke pot.

hope I helped.


VirgoPrincess ? 23.07.2009. 09:48

i had an dream Psychics!? i had a dream where i was the newcomer star, starring in a movie with Simon Baker the dude from The Mentalist but it was a movie ok? This guy i entered an after party success and with all the guests and people in it and it was amazing. As i'm playing this character in the movie, which is partly based on my life story not everything. and i was this character who is naive, gullible and so in love with Simon baker who plays as an entrepreneur, socialite and a womaniser. (character wise) so anyways for some reason, this movie went all bollywood, lol no not speaking in hindi but i was singing a song about the guy i love and he was enjoying it and watched me all the way, ppl joining the fun but in the end this guy was leaving with another woman. And i watched him go and i dropped down on the floor and my friends were helping me and of all the celebs i could dream of, my friends was Bipasha Basu i mean WTF? and some next bollywood actor was there but i didn't see him clearly.

I'm asking this psychics, WHAT THE HELL WAS THIS ABOUT???
i can't act, i can't sing! I'm not aspiring to be a celeb, what hell was this about??
trust me, this is not my fantasy or fantasised...ever.this was in my dream for real, it was rich, it was warm, it was very party like so it was weird bcos im just a simple girl who wants a simple life and basically a good job..

VirgoPrincess ?

Admin 23.07.2009. 09:48

One filled with vitality and passion for life. A sexy and exciting person, daring in their actions, cocky in their attitude, and utterly without fear. Absolute sincerity, coupled with violent emotions that swing wildly from one extreme to another. Boundless creativity and lust for a change of both pace and place. The rapid approach, or more likely departure, of something that sets your world ablaze. Often suggests travel or escape.
The card at the top right represents how you see your partner. Seven of Wands (Valor): Standing courageously for your beliefs in the face of adversity. Fear of failure overcome by the will to succeed. Great obstacles met with heroism and determination. Inner strength brought to bear at a critical moment.
The card in the center left represents how you feel about your partner. The Sun: A time of contentment and freedom from restraints. Creative inspiration. Achievement, success, and warmth. Light and love in personal or business matters. Happiness and faithfulness in a relationship.
The card in the center right represents what stands between you and your partner. The Empress: The essence of femininity and matriarchy. Creativity, productivity, and the foundation of civilization. Initiative and practical actions that promote prosperity, comfort and luxury. Fruitfulness and motherhood.
The card in the lower left represents how your partner sees you. The Moon: Cyclic transformation covering the mysterious forces of the night. Feminine beauty and the intoxicating vitality of youth. The metamorphosis from beauty to beast and vice versa. Occult forces, sensitivities and intense dreams. Dangerous situations and perilous times.
The card in the lower right represents what your partner feels about you. Two of Swords (Peace): Contradictory characteristics brought together as a means of resolving a conflict. Refusing to be ruled by negative emotions. Strife brought to a close through clarity of mind and restraint of force. Turning a blind eye to the minor infractions of others.
The card in the center represents the present status or challenge of the relationship. The Fool: Fearlessness, imagination, open-mindedness, and an adventurous spirit. Freedom from cares and worries. Ideas, thoughts, and impulses coming from a completely unexpected place. Nonchalance at the threshold of gaining all or losing all. Extravagance and intoxication with life. The pure and undifferentiated power of creation itself, where ultimate knowledge and oblivion are unified.

Nyd represents many things, most of them unpleasant - heed it well. Constraint, delay, loss, need, and sorrow are all frequently seen in this rune. Nyd speaks most strongly of pause, the hallmark of the both the timid and the patient, and is often interpreted as foretelling a delay in the effect of other runes that it accompanies. Fortunately, even where there is misery and danger there are valuable lessons to be learned - the trick is to learn them before you are overtaken by despair.
The right rune represents the second possible outcome. Laguz is the rune representing water. Laguz is a strongly feminine rune, and like the ocean contains much power of an uncontrollable nature. Here the rune is seen in the reversed, symbolic of the ebbing tide. This may suggest power being drawn away, or may perhaps the start of a journey. Since this is a rune of sexual power, the reversal can also suggest sexual problems or dissatisfaction.
The bottom rune represents the critical factor that determines what will come to pass. Ger is one of the runes that touches on the cycles of the year, in this case the fall harvest. These cycles are eternal, which is represented in the rune by the fact that it is unchanged by reversal. Ger can represent pregnancy or other forms of fruitfulness, and is especially indicative of the cycles of providence and karma - that which has been sown is now being reaped. This rune can also represent the cycles of wealth, for crops were frequently a sign of wealth.

Before Completion): There may be progress and success in these circumstances. We see a young fox that has nearly crossed the stream, when its tail gets immersed. There will be no advantage in any way.
The second line, undivided, shows its subject dragging back his carriage-wheel. With firmness and correctness there will be good fortune.
The fifth line, divided, shows its subject by firm correctness obtaining good fortune, and having no occasion for repentance. We see in him the brightness of a superior man, and the possession of sincerity. There will be good fortune.
The situation is shifting, but neither Yin (the passive feminine force) nor Yang (the active masculine force) is gaining ground.

The future is embodied in Hexagram 12 - P'I (Stagnation): There is a lack of understanding between t


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