Most introverts manage to act like extraverts when the occasion calls for it, just as left-handed people manage to use the numeric keypad on the computer.
Jeb Livingood is a left-handed INFJ who's a full time computer programmer. He did a study of M-B types and their use of computer-mediated communication and came to the important conclusion that introverts are "connected, communicating, and comfortable in cyberspace."
In fact, the computer seems almost to have been created for the peace- loving introverts who make up only 25-30% of the population. "It allows them to communicate in their preferred manner," says Livingood, "a written dialogue with time to pause for thought and analysis." It gives them a way to express themselves without what Livingood calls "the growing verbal inferno (cell phones, pagers, teleconferencing) [that] threatens to engulf the world's quieter individuals."
On the Internet there are mailing lists for many of the M-B types. There are more than 5 times as many introverts on them as extraverts, Livingood found. "Computers are the friend of the introvert," says Thuesen. "Extraverts often seem too impatient for computers; they get frustrated. They would rather be out talking to someone or performing some action."
E-mail allows the deliberative and quieter introvert to respond at their own pace, as they wish, and without interruption. Perhaps more importantly, the Internet allows them to find like-minded individuals across the planet, when 3 out of 4 people they meet aren't like them. Introverts may even have the advantage in today's information society.
It might well be depressing to an extrovert to have to crawl inside a computer when they could be outside playing with the guys, but to most introverts, it's a close thing to heaven. Email can be edited too! Be still my beating heart.
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Susan Dunn is a personal and professional development coach with an international clientele. She also conducts email coaching for the introverts! Email her for free ezine and catalogue of distance learning courses.