"...That everyday people, they lie to God too. So what makes you think, that they won't lie to you."
These powerful lyrics are from Lauryn Hill's song, "Forgive Them Father". This applies so often to issues of paternity. Paternity can have such a crucial impact on a family and these lyrics should lead fathers in non-committed or questionable relationships to DNA testing centers. Instead, people choose to be driven by excuses and misconceptions. These excuses often end up costing the family extreme financial and mental anguish when the truth is finally revealed.
No time or money
This excuse boggles the mind. It is an excuse of convenience. It really means you would rather remain ignorant of the truth and live a lie. Why not empower yourself and pay that initial DNA testing cost to learn the truth. Today, these tests can be done in the comfort of your home at a very low affordable price.
Too expensive
The cost of DNA testing has dropped drastically over the past few years. You can get a test from Walgreens or get a legally binding one online. At the most, a legal paternity test will cost about $400 dollars. So, if you saved $50 dollars a month during the time of the pregnancy, you would have more than enough to pay for the DNA paternity test. Do you think an investment of $400 is worth the time to learn the truth? Get your priorities together and learn the truth about your family!
I was intimate with her so the baby may be mine
This excuse negates the first two because the alleged father is trying to be responsible. But is he being responsible on a lie that has not been revealed yet? Although this is commendable, he needs to question the validity of that statement. Was he the only initiate partner during the time of conception? Is his partner worthy of this of trust?
This statement also shows how some men crave that paternal connection so powerfully that they will overlook the truth to get that actuality. This connection that could be based on a lie could be detrimental once the truth is finally learned. The earlier DNA testing is done, the easier it will be for your financial and emotional health!
Invest in the truth
Invest in your family. Invest in yourself. If you are unsure about the paternity of the child, get tested! A legal paternity test will cost at the most $400 dollars. An investment of $50 dollars a month during the pregnancy should be worth its weight in gold when it comes to learning the truth about your family!