Wedding Etiquette - Who Pays for What


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There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to "Who Pays for What" for the wedding, but a general guideline follows as to the traditional breakdown.  Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done once the date is set. Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal? A formal wedding, of course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least. Nothing is set in concrete. Who pays for what? Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer so rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom's family. Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses.






















Traditional Expense

Obligation





Wedding Gown/Headpiece/Accessories

Wedding Ring for Bride

Wedding Ring for Groom

Wedding Gift for Groom

Wedding Gift for Bride

Bridesmaid Gifts

Groomsmen/Usher Gifts

Bride's Bouquet

Bridesmaid Bouquets

Mother's Corsages

Grandmother Corsages

Groom's Boutonniere

Groomsmen Boutonnieres

Usher's Boutonnieres

Ceremony/Reception Flowers

Alter Baskets/Arches

Canopy/Carpet

Kneeling Bench/Candelabras

Rented Items for Wedding

Rented Items for Reception

Invitations/Announcements

Wedding Programs

Napkins/Matches/Printed Items

Marriage License

Medical Visit for Bride

Medical Visit for Groom

Church Fee

Clergyman/Officiate Fee

Musician/Soloist

Church Janitor

Reception Hall Fee

Catered Reception/Professional Services

Wedding Photography

Video Photography

Orchestra/Band/DJ

Wedding Favors

Groom's Cake

Rice Bags

Rehearsal Dinner

Bridesmaid Luncheon

Bachelor Party

Wedding Breakfast

Bridal Brunch

Bridesmaid's Gowns

Maid of Honor Gown

Matron of Honor Gown

Best Man Formal Wear

Usher's Formal Wear

Groomsmen's Formal Wear

Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants

Father of Bride Formal Wear

Father of Groom Formal Wear

Children's Formal Wear

Limousine Service

Honeymoon Arrangements

Travel Expenses to the Wedding

Accommodations for out-of town Guests

Gifts for the Couple





Bride's Family

Groom

Bride

Bride

Groom

Bride

Groom

Groom

Bride's Family

Groom

Bride's Family

Groom

Groom

Groom

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Groom

Bride

Groom

Bride's Family

Groom

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Groom's Family

Bride's Family

Grooms Family

Bride

Best Man/Groom's Attendants

Bride's Family

Bride's Family

Bridesmaid's

Maid of Honor

Matron of Honor

Best Man

Ushers

Groomsmen

Groom

Bride's Family

Groom's Family

Children's Parents

Groom

Groom

The Out-of-town Attendant 

or Family Member

Bride

Guest, Attendants and Family




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Mrs. Party... Gail Leino is the internet's leading authority on giving the best possible party, using proper etiquette and manners while also teaching organizational skills and fun facts.