As societal norms move towards greater acceptance of sexual exploration and experimentation, people are becoming more open about their sexuality. Longer sex is now perceived as a marker of sexual prowess, and with all the talks about the importance of satisfying one's partner, it is no surprise that many people are searching for ways to prolong their sexual encounters.
One of the most common complaints among couples is that sex is over too quickly. Research shows that the average length of sexual intercourse is about six to seven minutes, and for many people, this is simply not long enough. Although there is nothing inherently wrong with quick sex, many people find that extended sessions are more enjoyable and fulfilling.
Though there is no one definitive answer on how long sex should last, many people desire sex that lasts for at least 30 minutes or more. Prolonged sex helps partners get more in tune with each other's bodies, leading to a deeper physical and emotional connection and improving overall satisfaction.
To make sex last longer, here are ten tips that can help:
1. Practice mindful breathing
Breathing is essential in prolonging sexual encounters. When sex requires more physical endurance, intentional breathing helps maintain stamina, increases energy, and enables you to stay focused on the moment. Mindful breathing together with positive self-talk increases dopamine levels, which enhances your mood and makes you feel happier, more relaxed, and connected.
2. Learn to control your breathing
Climaxing and orgasmic releases are typically preceded by increased breathing and heart rate. To counteract this, focus on slowing down your breathing and take deep, controlled breaths. Your partner may benefit from this as well, so make sure to communicate about your breathing and ask your partner to do the same.
3. Use 'edging' techniques
Edging is the practice of bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing away, only to start again. This technique allows you to extend the duration of sexual intercourse by building up sexual tension and delaying orgasm. For best results, try edge yourself several times before you finally reach orgasm.
4. Try Kegel exercises
Kegel exercises were originally developed to help women improve bladder control, but research has found that this pelvic-floor exercise can help men last longer during sex. Kegel exercises involve tightening and releasing the muscles that control urination, which strengthens the pelvic floor muscles and helps regulate orgasms.
5. Try the squeeze technique
The squeeze technique is a popular method that aims to prevent premature ejaculation. When you feel that you are close to climaxing, stop and squeeze the base of your penis for a few seconds. Take a deep breath and relax before continuing penetrative sex. This technique helps keep you in control of your orgasm and delay ejaculation.
6. Different sexual positions
Experimenting with different sexual positions can delay ejaculation, help to maintain an erection and improve sex stamina. Choose positions that stimulate both partners equally and require a lot of physical exertion.
7. Use a numbing cream
There are topical creams available that, when applied to the penis, can reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation. This numbing cream will help reduce the physical stimulation that leads to premature ejaculation, allowing you to control the length of sexual intercourse.
8. Masturbate before sex
Masturbating before sex can help you last longer during sex as it can initially reduce sexual sensitivity and prolong erection.
9. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness can help you stay focused on the present moment and your partner's needs, helping maintain your sexual energy and resist early ejaculation. Being in touch with your senses, enjoying and appreciating your partner's movements, touch, and intimacy can enhance your sexual experience.
10. Use sex toys
Sex toys can help with longer sex by slowing things down. Dildos and vibrators can offer a wider range of sensations, which can help you last longer.
In conclusion, the desire for longer sex is understandable and attainable with the right techniques and mindset. Experiment with different strategies to find the ones that work best for you and your partner. Remember, sex is a journey, not a destination, so make sure to enjoy every minute of it.