If there's one thing that is coming ever so clearer to me regarding a
factor dictating a persons success (or not) in MLM, it's about a
person's habits in life.
What kind of habits that person has about MLM will literally define
the level of success they have.
Think about it.
What kind of habits do you have in your everyday life? Let's look at
it. Or at least write about it.
You're daily going to your work.
You get up, get dressed, have breakfast, drive to work in the same
manner and route, walk to your office, sit at your desk or cubie and
go about your daily routine.
You talk to the same folks.
You do the same work one morning to the next, generally. And then you
have a break or two and then have your lunch.
You go through the afternoon and then drive home again through the
same route and then get home and possibly kiss your spouse hello. You
have supper and then maybe play with the kids or watch the television
until it's bedtime and then you dream about your desired wants and
start the process all over again the next day.
I ask you. How much do you really think you had, or have, to think to
get through your day after day routine? I'll bet not much.
Why?
Because it's a routine.
Was it always a routine? No.
At one point you had to figure all this stuff out.
You had to determine when to get up for that new job and what you
would do everyday and how you would drive there and when you would get
home and when you had to go to bed to be amply rested for the next
day at work.
Essentially, you had to learn your new day. And you had to learn your
behavior to get you through your new daily routine.
After a while, your routine became just that. Routine. It became a
habit.
You did it, and you're doing it NOW without even thinking about it.
You're just doing it.
Day after day after day after day after day.
And then the weekend arrives and you go through the escape from work
routine until the next workweek arrives.
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Your present life.
A routine.
A routine habit.
That's how we humans operate. By learning behaviors until they become
habits.
The big question with all this is what kind of habits do you have in
your life today. Are they habits that are getting you what you want,
or are they leading you in the opposite direction?
This is the key question to determining your success with your MLM biz.
Let's discuss it further.
I'll explain and I'll keep this real simple and hopefully very clear
in understanding...
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You see, our lives are about habits. That's the way the human mind
works. We were programmed through repetition. This occurred to us from
our birth onto this physical plane and continues to this day.
How did you learn how to walk? Through forced repetition and failure,
right?
How did you learn to write anything? Repeating the same behavior over
and over and over again.
Last, how did you learn how to type on that keyboard in front of you
right now? Even if you're a one-finger typing machine, you still
learned and are learning through repeating the same actions over and
over until you master the activity you're attempting to succeed at.
Okay, so we know how you get a habit. By forced repetition.
It's not rocket science and you've probably heard it stated like this
elsewhere many times before. I don't profess to be the originator of
this thought but it is crucial to understanding how this comes about
and how your mind works to create a habit.
So, let's move on to what happens IN you, or more specifically, in
your mind, once this habit...the habit in question is 'mastered'.
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What happens to that habit? What happens is, it disappears from sight,
and almost from mind.
You see, your conscious thinking about your habit turns from being a
thought or series of thoughts that you are repeating to yourself in
your conscious mind about the action to ultimately unconscious
thoughts stored in your subconscious mind.
Okay, I know. Big jump there.
I'll go more slowly.
Simply, as long as you're thinking about the action that you're doing,
then you're working in your conscious mind. Because you actually have
to keep telling yourself, your mind, what to do, you haven't yet
mastered the action in question. You have to continue to think about
it.
You haven't mastered it yet and you haven't made it a habit yet. A
habit that you don't and no longer have to 'think' about.
But when you do enter this zone, this habitual way of thinking, the
habit becomes unconscious. In other words, ou no longer have to think
about it.
As Nike said so perfectly many years ago...You simply 'just do it'.
Again,...
You just do it.
You don't think about it.
You don't mull it over.
You don't stop yourself before you get past the starting line.
You don't need to be externally motivated.
You don't need to listen to your doubts, hesitation, and fears and all
that stuff.
You don't have to tell yourself anything consciously.
You just do it.
So who's in the drivers seat then?
Easy...
Your subconscious mind.
It's now operating on automatic pilot and allowing you to automatically
think the thoughts that cause the behavior that makes you do the action
without you getting in the way. Or at least having your conscious mind
impeding your progress.
How do you think you can drive a car, chew gum, drink coffee, listen
to the radio, and give the odd person the bird who cuts in front of
you on the freeway? And you do this all at the same time!
Do you think you just started out driving your car this way and you
did all this without ever hurting yourself or killing someone else in
the process? Of course not.
You had to 'learn' the behavior. And as you mastered one aspect of the
concept of driving, you moved onto the next aspect.
Driving the car on the way to your J.O.B.
And then listening to the radio while driving the car on the way to
your J.O.B.
And then drinking coffee while listening to the radio while driving
the car on the way to your J.O.B.
And so on and so on. Eventually, you didn't even have to think about
what you were doing. You just did it.
It all became a habit.
And as you mastered a portion of that behavior you continued to add
other behavior onto your activity of driving until you ultimately were
doing all that stuff, at the same time you were driving the car.
That is how your mind works. That is how your subconscious mind works.
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Again, you want to tell yourself something so you have conscious
thoughts in your conscious mind. You continue to tell yourself, direct
yourself to do those actions with your conscious mind until those
desired actions are no longer conscious.
Do you do those actions before that happens? Probably not.
Why not? Because your conscious mind will stop you with all the
reasons 'why not to' do that stuff.
Rather what WILL happen when this process becomes a habit within your
mind is your thoughts will essentially get taken over by the
subconscious mind. Your thoughts will be passed down into the
subconscious mind and it just dictates the actions that you desire
without you having to repeat yourself.
Your subconscious mind doesn't judge, opinionate, disagree, agree, or
even care about what you want it to do and what you are telling it to
do from your conscious mind. It just accepts your desired activity
request and follows through with it.
And what happens then?
Voila! A habit is formed.
Okay...
Now, let's move on to your MLM business.
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What are your habits pertaining to your MLM business? I'll bet that
they aren't too good or too effective. Otherwise, you wouldn't be
reading this article, would you?
NO badgering intended on my part, just the truth. :-)
Again, what are your habits with your beginning and maybe floundering
MLM biz? Do you have the habits that all successful MLM'ers have? Do
you work on your business in the right 'HABITUAL' way?
The way that those successful MLM folks do?
Do you work on yourself in a way that will grow you as a person so
that your business will grow along with you? Or are you stuck in
trying to figure out how to make all of this work without really
sticking with the successful actions?
You see, since you're probably not making it happen too well with your
MLM biz, or you're just starting out with it, you probably don't have
any successful habits with your biz.
This is not pounding-on-you or beating-you-up time from me. I'm just
stating the facts.
I ask you, why would you have the habits of MLM success down pat?
Right now, today, you wouldn't. If you did, you'd be an MLM heavy
wouldn't you?
So, since we agree that getting into the habit of MLM is your ultimate
goal so that you make your primary deal work and get this puppy
rolling to the finish line for you, then you need to do a little work
on your conscious mind and re- program that subconscious mind hiding
beneath it.
You need to implant into your subconscious mind the habits of
successful MLM'ers.
You need to have the daily necessary thoughts that create the
behaviors and actions to grow your business AND yourself become as
automatic as driving that car on the freeway whilst you chew and drink
and listen and curse at those 'other' ignorant drivers.
Yes, it has to become that automatic. Otherwise, you won't make it. I
guarantee you that.
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You see, your mind, our minds, are all the same. Basically.
And it is our 'mind' and only our mind that separates us from our
pets. There is nothing more unique about the human body than what can
be found in your pet cat or dog's body. Seriously.
But the only thing that you do have that is unique to you as an
organism on this planet is your 'mind'. And all that that entails.
That's the great gift you've got and you need to learn how to properly
program it so that you succeed in life and in your MLM business. You
see, you need to develop some new habits.
You need to develop the habit of working on your business instead of
watching the television for three hours every night.
You need to develop the habit of getting up an hour early every day to
read a self-help book instead of sleeping-in again.
You need to stay away from the movie theater for that Saturday
afternoon matinee so that you can get into the habit of using that
time for calling those leads or that list you have. You need to
develop that habit.
You need to develop the habit of believing in your company, your
products, your business, the MLM industry, and most importantly...
yourself. Yes, you need to make that a habit.
You don't have it that way yet. I know you don't.
You need to do what it takes to change your mind and you need to do it
as many times as you find necessary until you're living the life of an
MLM'er who is successful.
You need to inject into your days AND your life the habits of success
in your MLM business that will get you what you want out of it.
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What you are in the habit of doing right now WON'T get you there.
I'll repeat that.
What you are in the habit of doing right now WON'T get you there.
Accept that. It won't.
But like a computer, your mind and your subconscious mind can be
reprogrammed with success. And that reprogramming is not up to...
...your upline,
...your partner in life,
...me,
...your friends,
...your Higher Power,
...your parents,
...or anyone or anything else.
It's ultimately up to YOU.
Again, your life needs to become filled with the daily habits of
successful MLM'ers.
You have to unconsciously choose and then do those actions that WILL
get you what you are working towards with your business. They have to
be automatic autopilot actions. Otherwise YOU'LL get in the way.
Like you are now.
And that is why you're spinning your wheels. And are frustrated to no
end.
Right?
Get OUT of your way.
Get INTO your mind.
Develop the habits of successful MLM'ers. Look for them. Find the
one's who made it big in the 90's. Perhaps even the late 90's. They
know what it takes to make it big in today's MLM industry.
Mimic their actions. Mimic their thoughts. Mimic THEM.
Read the books they do. Listen to the tapes they do. Work on your-SELF
like they are. Absorb their habits of BEING and doing MLM until you
'become' them in thought and activity. And you do what they do without
second-guessing any of it.
Get your-self on autopilot.
Get your old programming erased.
Get your conscious mind out of the picture and delve into programming
your subconscious mind. Yes, that unique part of you that has nothing
to offer you but what you program it with.
Program it with the habit of MLM success.
Remember that overused saying... 'Change your mind, change your life'?
Now you know why it's so critical for you to do more than just read and
remember it.
Go ahead. Change your mind.
And get in the habit of MLM success, okay?
About the Author
Andre Best is the owner of http://www.Is-MLM-For-You.com - a
generic MLM resource site offering over 400 printed pages of
unique information for struggling and beginning MLM/network
marketers.