A lot of men preceive the task of starting a conversation with a woman especially if she is highly attractive stranger a hard and discomforting one. Besides that, they typically take the wrong attitude of being too nice and over openhanded with flowers, paying for dinners and expressing their lack of confidence and low self esteem.
The women on their part are not attracted to unconfident, dishonest, wussy men. They will either decline him on the spot or possibly worse take advantage of the situation by exploiting him to furnish her meal after meal, present after present and usually see other man for real love, romance and sex. In this situation the woman has two men a provider and a lover.
The nice boy, fawning, wussy approach may be observed Whenever a man is requsting a woman to dance or offer to buy her a drink without ever to build the attraction or chemistry.
Is Cocky rather then Wussy is the answer?
The nice boy attitude is not the perfect way as we realized above and being really mean and vulgar won't function either, the correct way that has proven 90% of the times to work magnificently with women is the confident, bold, cocky and funny attitude.
In this approach you build the relationships on a give and take, a flattering remark and a bust (with a smile), you indicate the woman you'r self assured enough to criticize her, you express yourself naturally neer women, you aren't scared of her, you are not caring if she likes you or not, you are genuine and express your opinions openly, you are playing the confident hard funny guy. Now you bring her self confidence to the test, you challenge her, you intrigue her, you build the attraction. Let her chase you! You need to be her prize, a reward for her hard earned efforts for behaving like she should have with you.
For example you start and Say something such as: I like your jacket it's really nice (a flattering remark), then comment: but it doesn't fit so well with your shoos does it ? (a bust), you do it on purpose, you ought to practice on it.
You should tease her like hand it to her and then take it away in the last minute, be spontaneous, unexpected, a teaser and fascinating.
How do you know if she is interested?
Its simpler than you believe and it goes like that: You engage with her: What a beautiful pair of boots you'r wearing , I really like them, She is looking who is it and then say: Thanks. You: arent you melting in them at such a hot weather? (smiling) or are you trying to hide your feet from me? She: (smiling) hell, no, I love them thats all, Ill bet my feet are nicer in comparison with yours, Mr. long nose. (she responded so she is engaged too -). You: wow, I understand you develop a very good opinion about yourself attractive lady, why wont we arrange a feet contest...
The important thing is to keep it running with light humoristic and fun approach. Without even realizing it you are mutually engaged in developing a relationship and building your mutual attraction.
Whenever you start dating with a woman keep in mind you are not on an employment interview, don't make it sound like questions and answers, don't make it boring, don't try to show off, talk with her just about general things she likes and sympathize with, such as famous Television shows etc, it may look to you at first to a certain extent superficial but this is the way to go. Try to avoid, at least at the begining, talking on your problems at work, your relations with your parents etc'.