One of the most important things we can teach a child is independence. This especially holds true in today's society, where there are so many distractions and temptations that call to young people as they grow, and the only real way to minimize risks is to teach your child at a young age to be a thinking adult.
So here are 4 tips for encouraging the development of independence in your toddler.
1. Expect Mood Swings and Turmoil
Be aware that ever child will have their clingy moments and moments when they're just out of control and won't listen to anyone. Children, just like the rest of us, are subject to all kinds of emotions and hormones. Understand that there will be rockiness and turmoil along the way; it's up to you to be the stable, yet flexible one that isn't rocked by huge mood swings and let's them run their course without a huge response.
2. Adjust to Their Varying Degrees of Clinginess
Some parents who want to foster independence in their kids make it a point to never accept any kind of clinginess and will highly discourage it and push a child away that shows these tendencies. But while you might think you're doing them a favor that will build their character, the truth is that the pushing away just inspires more clinginess.
Some degree of clinginess is natural, and it's important in the early stages of their social development to pay attention to their needs. When they want to run around doing their own thing, let them. If they are in a clingy mood, let them be. Watch for extremes, of course, but by allowing them the comfort of you being available, they gain confidence in separation.
3. Teach Them to Think Rather Thank Obey
When they do something wrong or you want to guide them, don't be the ultimate authority. It's okay to be stern, but laying down "the law" and telling them how to act and how to think every step of the way builds a dependent nature.
Instead, teach them to think and offer decisions when possible. Help to walk them through those decisions, but options provide a chance to think for themselves.
4. Ease Them Into Your Absence
One of the most important times for building independence are those inevitable moments when you have to separate. Do not think that running out the back door while they are busy watching TV is the way to get around tantrums and teach them to be okay without you