Being a mother is a beautiful thing, but it can also be very hectic, to say the least. But as someone who has been there and done that (and still doing it), I know there are ways to mange the responsibilities of being a mother and wife while pursuing a new career for yourself. It's just a matter of calling on various resources and committing yourself to whatever you want to achieve.
Sometimes as mothers, it's hard to let go of certain motherly duties. We tend to be emotional creatures and even though somewhere inside we know we want something more for ourselves, we convince ourselves that we have to put what we want on the back burner because our family needs us.
You might think that your husband can't do something as well as you do it. Maybe you think your precious little Johnny can only be put to bed by you. Or maybe you feel that if you left your three children in your husband's care for more than an hour, there would only be two children left alive upon your return. But these are just excuses!
The truth of the matter is that everyone will do just fine without you. Yes, your precious little Johnny might have to adjust to the sour notes of daddy's lullaby songs, but he will adjust. He might even come to like the feel of being tucked into daddy's hairy arms as he rocks him back and forth. It's just a matter of you giving up some control and delegating some of your duties to other people in your family.
If old enough, your children can also help. Older children can help care for younger children, whether it be helping out with homework or getting them bathed and ready for bed for you. Children of various ages can always help out around the house when it comes to cleaning. Taking into consideration their age, they can be assigned certain chores so that you are not stuck with all the cleaning. You may even have a child who is old enough to cook or prepare meals. If so, then assign them with preparing the family meal a couple times of week. Set up a reward system so that they get something in return for their efforts.
Anytime someone in your family takes on a duty that you once had to do yourself, equates into lessening your load so that you can tend to other matters. How you do that is up to you. Whether it's a daily routine or twice a week, whatever agreement you work will be of great benefit to you.
If you are a single mom, this obstacle can be a bit more challenging. But it is not impossible. You just need to take the time to assess your resources. In addition to having your own children help you out around the house, you might also have parents or siblings that can help you out. If you need someone to watch the kids to help free up some time for yourself, make a list of family, friends, and neighbors that you trust that might be willing to take on this responsibility while you attend a class, volunteer, or perform some other necessary tasks that will help get you closer to achieving your goals. You can also look into hiring a nanny, baby sitter, or maid to help you out.
Through assessment and creative problem solving, you can lighten your present load of family responsibilities. Doing so will help enable you to focus on the tasks you need to manage when it comes to making a better life for yourself.