After The Affair - Is Your Relationship Really Over?

To stay with your cheating spouse or call it quits? That's a question only you can answer. After the affair and betrayal have come to light, you are in the unenviable position of deciding whether to give your marriage another try and hope it will be worth it in the long term, or throw in the towel. Only you can make the decision to stay or leave.

Which brings up an interesting question; how can you make a meaningful choice to stay in the relationship or call it quits? The stakes are high and you don't want to make the wrong decision. There is no easy way to decide whether to stay or go. Here are some things to consider as you contemplate the fate of your marriage after the affair:

1) Is your spouse truly committed to working on the marriage? Is he or she willing to do the work necessary to repair the damage that they caused? You need to know this, because the amount of effort and dedication your cheating spouse puts toward repairing the marriage will go a long way in helping you decide what to do. It takes two for a strong relationship to work out. One half of the relationship can't make it work

2) Is the affair truly over? Has your spouse completely severed all ties for good with the other party?

3) Is he or she actively engaged in looking for ways to repair the marriage, such as going to see a therapist or counselor?

4) Do you feel that the emotional price you would have to pay to rebuild your marriage is worth it to you?

Whether to stay or leave after the affair is a very tough decision to make. The feelings of anger caused by hurt and deception from someone you loved with your whole heart and soul can be unbearable at times. But by deciding to stay, your marriage can become stronger than ever. So if you think your marriage is worth saving and you both are willing to try, give it another chance, you have a whole life of happiness ahead of you.