After The Affair - Should You Give Your Cheating Spouse Another Shot?

An affair is an extremely hard thing to face and to get over, and there will come a time when you must decide whether or not you're willing to give your cheating spouse a second chance. This is not going to be an easy decision to make as there are a huge number of factors that go into deciding whether or not to stay with your spouse after the affair.

It's hard to understand how someone you loved and trusted for so many years has betrayed you. And you may still be experiencing much grief and negativity toward your spouse as a result. So it is not unreasonable for you to expect him to be remorseful and accept full responsibility for actions. Here are some questions to ponder as you consider whether or not to give your spouse a second chance after the affair.

- Is your cheating spouse genuinely sorry that he hurt you and put your marriage in jeopardy? Does he seem genuine remorseful and acknowledged that it was wrong to engage in such conduct?

- Has he ever acknowledged the deep pain he has caused you and offered a heartfelt apology?

- Is your spouse committed to repairing the damage or is he or she ready to leave the marriage?

- Has he stopped his old ways and become open and transparent with you? Do you have to have access to his phone, credit card, cell phone statements and other forms of communication?

- Is your spouse willing to do anything necessary to make it the relationship work?

- Has your spouse completely eliminated the other person from his or her life and is fully commit committed to you and making your marriage work?

These are just some of the issues that you need to think through when deciding whether or not to give your spouse and your marriage another try. One thing is for certain; only you can make this decision. Rest assured that your relationship doesn't have to be over after the affair. There are many marriages that have become better and stronger even after they were torn apart by cheating.