Building An Affair Proof Marriage After Infidelity

Your world has been devastated by marital infidelity, but both you and your spouse are working very hard on repairing the damage. The next step in the healing process is to start building an affair proof marriage that will prevent this sort of devastation from ever happening again in your relationship.

Let's face it, most affairs or betrayal generally do not occur because one person deliberately sets out to hurt their spouse or destroy their marriage. An affair usually happens progressively - they may start out innocently enough but then one lie, however little, evolves into a huge explosion over time that can tear your marriage to shreds.

To prevent a future affair and build an affair proof marriage involves setting specific boundaries for your marriage - in other words; define what type of behavior is acceptable and which type of behavior is not. Have a frank discussion with your spouse and come to some sort of agreement between the two of you (and within yourself) that you will monitor your actions and do your utmost not to cross the boundaries that you've established.

If your marriage has already been torn apart by an affair, the risk is greater that it will happen again, particularly if the cheating spouse is still interacting with people of the opposite gender in the same way they did before the affair. So you need to build a fence so to speak, around the relationship. This not only ensures more safety in the trust issues area, but it encourages openness, sharing and communication about what's going on with each other.

Become sensitive to activities, actions, and people that could endanger your marriage. Be aware of potentially dangerous situations such phone calls, emails, texting, coffee, drinks, etc, that can lead to other things. You also need to sit down as a couple and discuss appropriate boundaries that hopefully will never be crossed again.

Building an affair proof marriage particularly after marital infidelity can be challenging and may take a long time to accomplish. Setting boundaries within your relationship helps complete the work you have done so far to rebuild honesty and trust in your marriage.