If you find out that your husband is having an affair, your thoughts will be in a whirl, and one of the first things that will bother you is whether he actually loves the other woman more than you. Cheating is an act that goes to the root of a relationship, and many people tend to interpret it as the end of love for the cheated partner. If you discover that your husband has cheated on you, you will almost automatically see this as a proof of his lack of love and care for you.
However, the truth is that love is usually far from the minds of men when they cheat. It will not necessarily mean that your husband has stopped loving you when he has an affair. Neither will it necessarily mean that he now loves the other woman. This does not mean that this will always be the case in every circumstance of cheating. However, it is true in many cases.
If your husband does not love the other woman more than you, then why did he start the affair in the first place?
This is something that can bother you a lot. However, you should consider his own point of view, as challenging as it may be, particularly at this time. If you can change your perspective in this way, you will be able to have a deeper insight into the situation.
Try to find out the thing or things that the other woman gives him better. Knowing this answer is what will help you to get to the root of the problem, which will put you in a good position to solve the issue. When your husband cheats, it is more likely that there is something lacking in your relationship that he receives from the other woman. Although you may automatically start thinking of sex, in many cases the real reason has nothing to do with it.
There are many reasons that can push men towards having affairs. In general, however, these two things are more likely to be at the root.
Admiration
Can you remember when you let your husband know that you admire him? If the other woman gives him open compliments while you do not, he will be attracted to her. Do you know that your husband will love it when you just give him an appreciative glance? Are you aware of the things that matter to him, and how do you handle them? Try to take a look back into your relationship and find out the things you used to do that made your husband feel as the only man in your life. There are chances that you used to make him feel on top of the world during the early days of your relationship. However, you may have taken some things for granted as you immersed yourself in the responsibility of taking care of the home.
Accepting him without reservation
If you try to twist your husband into the 'proper' kind of man while the other woman accepts him just as he is, you will put more power in her hand. If you need his help in some way, find a way of doing it without making him feel that you want to change him.