Getting ready for a first date can be very stressful, whether you're the man or the woman. Woman often think of men as confident and always sure of what they're doing. In reality, most men will claim they're every bit as nervous before a first date as women. If you're a man getting ready for your first date with that someone special, here are some tips to ease your anxiety and put the fun back into dating.
Provide her with a traditional date. In spite of how modern and independent women may think they are, when it comes to dating, at least the first date, they're traditional. In most women's minds, a traditional date involves the man making the reservations to wherever they're going, picking the woman up and paying the bill. Do not expect her to meet you on the first date or to help pay for the meal. Doing the first date properly will get things off on the right foot.
Don't expect her to accept a date for today or tomorrow. Allow enough time to make plans and reservations. By asking her for a date in the future, you're letting her know that you believe she leads an active life and doesn't spend her time sitting at home waiting for you to call. Show her that you cared enough about this first date to have, it all planned. Do not show up at her door with no idea of what you're going to do. Don't forget that anticipation tends to make things better!
Don't be cheap on your first date. You don't have to take her to the most expensive restaurant in town, but be selective with where you choose to take her. Show her that you've taken time to consider the best ways to show her how special she is to you. Even if you're on a budget, there are many ways to delight her on the first date. Learn what she likes and do everything to accommodate her. Don't be afraid to call her ahead of time to confirm your plans. She'll take this as a sign that you are anticipating the first date as much as she is.
Be on time for your date. This is good etiquette for all dates but particularly so with the first date. Try not to be too early either as this may just stress her out if she happens to be running late. If for some unavoidable reason you find you will be late, call her and give her an update on when she can expect you to arrive.
We all love to have someone show us and let us know we're appreciated and desirable. If she looks great, don't hesitate to let her know. At the end of the date, if you feel things did not work out and have no change, do not string her along with a promise to call her. Tell her you had a great time and thank her with a kiss on the cheek. If, on the other hand, you both had a great time, let her know and ask her out again!