Losing a loved one, especially a spouse, is always painful. The heavy transition from being a husband to a widower, wife to a widow, is a very difficult and sorrowful journey. Aside from the fact that you're losing your life partner, you are also faced with a whole new myriad of questions, adjustments and decisions to be made.
1) It's okcry and freely allow yourself to mourn. Who says crying is acceptable for females only? Adults of both genders must be allowed to mourn in their own personal ways. Postponing your emotions by filling everyday with activities could simply defer and aggregate your grief reaction. At the end of the day, the pain is still there till you recognize it.
2) It's natural that you'll feel a wide array of emotionsbe prepared for that. Through your efforts, you could conquer your grief. Especially for the newly widowed, your grief process must be a very personal one; you don't have to follow others into their own grieving styles. It's not true that if you really wait long enough, the pain will stopit doesn't; you have to take
action.
3) You can let go and say farewell in your own time at your own pace, so no need to rush. There's no deadline for your mourning and at some point in this process, the time will come when you're ready to say goodbyeat your own convenience.
4) For the newly widowed person, you may be facing some legal and financial obligations and decisionsand that alone can be daunting, while you're not even done with your grief.
But since this is about your future, try your best to deal with these stuff, taking it one step at a timeso as not to drain you both physically and emotionally.