Let's face it- getting your heart broken is one of the most painful things that nearly everyone on this planet deals with at some point or another. Regardless of whether you were the one who got broken up with or the one initiating the break up, you have to give yourself time and space to think about the reasons the two of you broke up.
Try to look at things objectively - is it really for the best that the two of you are apart? Can you really make the changes necessary to win your ex back and make your ex fall in love with you again? Make sure that you examine your thoughts and actions while answering these questions, and if you feel that you still want to get back with your ex, consider the following advice.
Depending on how long you had been with your ex, you were both probably different people when you started dating. Remember the things you used to do to woo him and her and begin to reincorporate them into your interactions with your ex. Yet, remember not to be overbearing, particularly if your ex was the one that broke up with you. Be sure to give your ex plenty of space, but maintain a friendly relationship with them while making an effort to change the things that were wrong with you or with your interactions while you were in a relationship with that person.
After giving your ex and yourself some time to consider your emotions and examine your past relationship, you can begin to think about planning a time to begin the conversation with them about getting back together. When you do have this conversation be sure to alert your ex about all the thinking you have been doing and the efforts you have made, and continue to make, to fix everything that was wrong when you were together before.
Be understanding and considerate of your former partner's feelings. Don't be defensive or angry if what they have to say isn't exactly what you wanted to hear and be prepared for that possibility. In order to win your ex back and make your ex fall in love with you again you have to exercise patience and understanding, regardless of the outcome of the situation is.