Husband Has Cheated - Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

When you find out that your husband has cheated on you, you will go through a very painful experience. It can be a very terrible blow if you never imagined that he could do such a thing. The knowledge will make you go through a great mixture of emotions as you try to come to terms with the bitter experience. Is your relationship worth saving?

You will need to muster up your courage and find out relevant details about the relationship so that you can fix the problem. You will need to be prepared to sort through different emotions particularly if you find out that your husband's affair has lasted for quite a while. However, knowing the truth will help you to get the painful experience out of the way so that you can work on saving your marriage.

Once you have determined the facts, you will need to make tough choices as to how you want to go on. You will basically need to choose between two main decisions - do you want to forget about your relationship and start a new life or salvage your marriage? Your husband will also need to make his decision.

In case your husband is prepared to work at saving you marriage, you will need to go for one of two choices. You can either agree to work hand in hand with him to save your marriage or leave him for good. However, you should understand that turning your back on the person with whom you have built a life is not as easy as it sounds. There are indeed many reasons for choosing to repair your strained relationship.

Even when your husband confesses to his cheating and then wants to call it quits, you will still have the chance to salvage your relationship. After all, you have a say in the marriage, for it takes two people to build a relationship. Of course you will have to work extra hard if he seems to be pulling away from you. When you are determined, you will succeed and reap wonderful rewards. It is through your actions that he may come to realize that he was not quite ready to call it quits after all.

However, the fact that you can save your marriage is not the same as saying that your relationship is worth saving, and this is your major concern.

If you would like to determine whether it is indeed worth saving, you should ask yourself some hard questions. In fact, you should consider just one major question.

If you had not discovered your husband's affair, would the marriage be worth fighting for? This question is important because just one thing will have changed in the relationship - you will have gained a knowledge you did not have before.

If you can positively say that you would have saved your relationship before you gained this painful knowledge, then it is worth saving even now. What is important is for you to be ready to work at it.