Facing Confusion
How many times have you thought or told someone “I’m confused?” How many times have you heard information, knew it was right for you, but felt uncertain how to use it in your life? How often do you feel confused?
I recently asked these questions to a conference where I was speaking and no sooner had I walked off stage and Jane appeared in front of me. “That’s me! I’m the person you were talking about. I live in a constant state of confusion. Confusion is my middle name. Richard, I am an intelligent person, but when it comes to doing what I need to do, I just stand there surrounded by confusion. I don’t like this feeling, but I am so confused with my life!”
Ralph put it this way. “I’m so tired of living with this feeling of being trapped. I want to have this break out you talked about. I want to remove this cloud of confusion that seems to be hanging over my head. Enough is enough and believe me — I have had enough! My challenge is understanding this confusion and pinpointing where it is coming from. I read, I listen to tapes, I seek help, but I still can’t seem to shake this feeling of being confused. Can you help me remove this cloud from over my head?”
The more I study human behavior the more convinced that confusion is the #1 enemy that people wrestle with. It is more than a feeling; it is a sense of feeling paralyzed. When you are sitting at the table of confusion, you are feeding on the other negative emotions that are designed to trap you in uncertainty, worrying about what you should be doing and doubting each decision you make.
Confusion presents you with a feeling of being torn into pieces. Part of you knows exactly what you need to do, but another part is so trapped in the fear of what if that you find yourself too exhausted to do anything. Confusion steals time, drains your energy, attacks your spirit and pushes you to the point of exhaustion. It is not something to be taken lightly; it is a real issue that has to be understood, faced and not allowed to control your life. Avoiding your confusion only strengthens it. Denying its presence in your life, only grants it more emotional space. The key is understanding what it is, how it gets into your life and learning to challenge its presence before it establishes an emotional foothold in your life.
WHAT IS CONFUSION?
Confusion is clarity replaced with the feeling of uncertainty. Clarity is the result of you trusting your mind’s ability to show you the pathway to resolution. When your mental trust diminishes, your emotional uncertainty increases. The result is a feeling of confusion.
Confusion is order replaced with chaos. For your mind to provide you with clear direction you must have a plan that is designed to stretch you beyond where you were yesterday. When you are living as a repeat performance, your imagination only shows you part of the puzzle. When there is limited mental sight, there is increased emotional presence, which defines itself as chaos in your life. The result will be the feeling of being confused.
Confusion is not trusting what you know is right. You always know what you should do; that doesn’t mean you will always do it, but you always know the right answer. When you don’t listen to what you know to be truth, you increase your feeling of confusion.
Confusion is fact replaced by negative fear. This continues the previous thought. Fact is information that has a foundation you can stand on. Negative fear is a feeling that causes you to turn your back on the solid foundation. When negative fear is stronger than fact, you will feel confused with your thoughts.
Confusion is your unstoppable spirit giving into unnecessary worry. All have this inner voice that whispers to us. It is that part of you that breathes confidence into a world filled with uncertainty. As long as you listen, you can handle the test of life, but when you turn a deaf ear to what it is telling you, you open the door to unnecessary worry. The result is a feeling of being totally confused.
Confusion is structure replaced with sinkholes. You need a sense of structure in your life. Structure is not routine; it is a solid foundation you can stand on in the midst of uncertainty. It is your inner beliefs that hold you together when things around your life seem to be falling apart. Take away your beliefs and you find yourself falling into the sinkholes that come with self-doubt. These sinkholes are the result of you stepping off of the foundations you have used as stepping stones for your life. Step off these stepping stones and you will be left with confusion.
Confusion is inner peace replaced with personal disappointment. Calmness and clarity demand a sense of inner peace. When inner peace is replaced by personal disappointment you are left with a feeling of inner weakness. The feeling of inner weakness will eat at your spirit of self-trust. Take your self-trust away and confusion will bring a host of negative friends to your life.
Confusion is ownership replaced with justification. As much as I say it, many still don’t get the power of the thought — you are perfectly designed to achieve what you are achieving. You are responsible for your behavior; like it or not, you are responsible! When you seek to avoid ownership, you create confusion for your life.
Confusion is newness replaced with sameness. Life is not about staying the same; this is existence. Life is about seeking the challenges, accepting what the challenges bring to your life and trusting that there is a purpose to all that you are handed. The reality is — most choose sameness over newness because their foundation of self worth is weak and it is easier to justify staying where they are. Stay in sameness long enough and it will shut down your imagination, weaken your spirit and put you in conflict with the real purpose of your life. Here is the question: Are you where you want and could be in your life, or are you where you have been and each day justify your sameness?
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