What can you do to make yourself feel more successful
NOW even if you feel you aren't, even if you are so far
away from where you want to be?
Whenever I was down, I used to think I just needed to
wait it out. I used to think I needed to dig down and
understand what my soul was trying to tell me.
I suppose it’s a fine line. You want to dig down and
extract the jewels available there, but you also don't
want to get buried alive. In terms of Universal Law,
being down, depressed, feeling bad, will only attract
more of the same feelings. In metaphysical thinking,
it is more beneficial to change your thought patterns
to something 'feel good'. This will attract more good
feelings towards us.
You really need to decide for yourself what you want
to do with where you’re at. As I said, it’s a fine
line.
Acknowledge where you’re at, but don’t dwell too long
down there. If you can’t mine a gem from there
quickly,
cannot find anything positive down there, get out.
When in doubt, follow the Gambler’s philosophy,
"Ya gotta know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
know when to walk away, know when to run."
So where do we start? Here are a few suggestions for
when you're feeling down and not-so-successful. The
most point is to get started. Doing something,
anything, will send a message to the Universe of your
intentions, and more begets more.
Exercise. I know, I know. It may be the last thing
on your mind, however, doing anything physical, even
slightly so, will improve your mood incredibly. The
ol’ endorphins kick in eventually (they can’t help it)
and chemical changes occur within our bodies which, in
turn, elevate our mood. Even a 10-15 minute walk
around the block will do wonders. Look at it this way,
too. If the walk itself doesn’t elevate your mood, at
least you can feel good about simply moving your body.
A small success is still a success. A number of small
successes increases your feeling of success
exponentially.
Meditate. Connect with the Source/Universe/God/Higher
Power. Most people are aware of a power outside of
themselves overseeing our lives. Whatever you call
it or feel it to be, there is something all knowing,
other than our smaller ego selves. Connecting with
the Source, getting quiet with ourselves, changes our
thought patterns.
Think a good thought. Go to a good place in your mind.
Imagine a good place where you can return to time and
again. When you feel down, imagine that good place,
go in, feel good, and get out. Visit often.
Declutter your space. Cleaning your space clears your
mind. It also sends a message to the Universe that you
are open for more, that you are capable of taking care
of what you have and you’re ready for greater
abundance.
Journal - get your feelings out. Just write down
whatever is on your mind. If you want your journaling
to be really effective, continue with the next idea…
Be grateful. This should probably be at the top of
the list. Being grateful for something, ANYTHING,
in your life has the power to magically lift you out
of your funk. Make a list of just 3 things you are
grateful for. See what happens.
Read - pick up something that you’ve been meaning
to read for awhile. Take a look at your community
newspaper, connect with your world. Learn something
new.
Pick up a hobby - do something that you completely lose
yourself in. For me it’s sewing and other
needlecrafts.
Cleanse yourself. Physically - take a bath, shower,
wash your face. Cleanse yourself any other way you
feel fits. Light some incense with the intention of
cleansing your space, your spirit.
Go see a movie. You get to sit in the dark and think
of nothing but what’s on the screen in front of you.
Forgive. Yourself and anyone you are holding anything
against. Just let it go.
Create a positive vision for your life. Imagine,
dream.
And dream big. Record your vision in a journal, on an
index card and keep it handy. Then revisit it when you
need a reminder or boost. Your vision should be
positive
and worded positively. More importantly, it should make
you feel very, very good.
Any and all of these can get you out of a funk. The
common denominator in all of these is action. Taking
action to move you away from your funky feeling is what
will move things along. If you choose to stay in your
funk, recognize it as your choice, and take full
responsibility for it. Don’t make the mistake of
victimizing yourself. Nobody else is responsible for
how you feel. We create our own thoughts and choose
how we want to feel about external events. So, if you
really want to feel down and stay down, okay, your
choice. But know there are alternatives. We just need
to reprogram ourselves to think of them instead of
wallowing in our funk.
About the Author
Sue Dyson, a stay at home mom to three children and one
large dog, publishes SuccessfulMama Ezine, offering
down to earth tips and resources to help moms balance
personal goals with the craziness of motherhood.
Visit http://www.SuccessfulMama.com