So you want to be successful. For What Purpose? When I first
heard that question I said, "You've got to be crazy, to have a
lot of money. What else?" This was quickly followed by the
question, For What Purpose?
I have to tell you that I went dead silent. My mental wheels
were spinning. My eyes glazed over into what can best be
described as a "thousand yard" stare.
Until that point in time I hadn't really considered what was my
purpose for anything. I thought I knew the "why" of what I was
doing with my life. I was working to support my family. That's
"why" I had a job. But there was always the statement quietly
running in the back of my mind "...there had to be more to life
than this."
Then it hit me. I was thinking and talking about the DOing in my
life and not the BEing. You and I are called Human Beings, not
Human Doings, and yet the "do-ing-ness" was the direction that I
had learned to travel. From where did that come?
As I looked at my life I discovered that there were thought
patterns that had been with me for as long as I can remember.
They were so rooted in my mind that they all but transparent. And
it was those patterns brought into realization through my words
and outer activities that were in charge. No wonder I thought
that "..there had to be more to life than this."
Let me tell you, right here and now, that I didn't come from a
dysfunctional family. I wasn't born into poverty, nor with a
"silver spoon". I wasn't abused as a child. My family loves me
and it shows in a thousand ways. There was nothing "wrong" with
me.
I write these words so that you will KNOW you don't have to have
had a "horrible" childhood and/or life to date to pick up these
now transparent patterns. Regardless of your background it is the
patterns you have picked up and held tightly together, running in
the background, that are the roadblocks you see in the here and
now which prevent you from being who you want to be; Doing what
you want to do: Having what you want to have.
Let me give you an example. When I was about six years old my
parents divorced. As I was the eldest of two boys I was told
that I was the "man of the house." At six years of age I had no
idea of how to be the man of the house. This thought was
enforced by being repeated by loving family members throughout my
childhood. I was often told that I was "..doing a great job as
man of the house..." The truth of the matter was that I didn't
know how to be the man of the house. But, I quickly learned that
as long as I did nothing "wrong" they would love me.
Over the years this developed into, "...If I do nothing, they
will still love me..." As a result there are many instances
where I "did nothing" It was a safe place to be. It was also a
roadblock to becoming successful. For doing nothing results in
nothing.
So what to do? The very first thing that I had to dig deep
within and uncover what I knew was there. My Purpose for BEing.
With careful cultivation I developed a statement that make my
heart sing. The purpose of my life is to share with individuals
(just like you) the REALITY of Living every moment with Love,
Harmony and Mindful Abundance.
Now when those thoughts of "do nothing" appear, I choose to shift
towards truly living on Purpose. I use that word "towards" on
purpose as well. We get so excited that we recogize these old
limiting patterns are running the show so we are constantly
shifting....and not getting anywhere with it. If a shift is based
in fear, and the shift is based in running away from your old
limiting patterns then it is destined to be shallow and not
entirely effective.
My good friend, Julie Jordan Scott, put it this way:
"When a shift is based on Moving Towards your TRUE
purpose and you are INTENTIONALLY and truly FOCUSED on
your life purpose, you have a tool which can be life
changing."
So now when the question is asked, For What Purpose?
I have an answer.
About the Author
Rob Wheeler is an Internet Marketing Solutions Partner, speaker,
teacher, Mentor, Life Purpose coach and Webmaster. Other works
can be found on his site: http://www.mindfulabundance.com.
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