We humans spend much of our time trying to control every
aspect of our lives. Unfortunately, too often we waste time
trying to control things that are simply beyond our control.
Having an understanding of what things you do control can
make it easier for you to gain control of your life and
everything in it.
1. What you do.
Your actions are yours alone. You choose to make them or not
make them and you are responsible for the effects of those
actions.
2. What you say.
Likewise, the words you speak (or write) are also
consciously chosen. Like actions, they have an impact on
your life and the lives of those you contact.
3. What you think.
Yes, there are some subconscious thoughts that you can't
control. But the things that you really think about, your
beliefs, your ideals, etc. are concepts you have chosen to
accept and believe in.
4. Your work.
Many people like to overlook this one, it being much easier
to say "Oh, I'm trapped in my job because I don't have a
degree, experience, etc."
Hogwash! That's simple a way of denying one's responsibility
in having chosen the job in the first place. It's your job
and you chose it. If you stay (or go), that's a choice as
well.
5. The people you associate with.
There's a famous t-shirt that states: "It's hard to soar
like an eagle when you're surrounded by turkeys." Colloquial
is very often correct! Your friends can either lift you up
or bring you down. You make the decision which type of
friends you wish to have.
6. Your basic physical health.
Much about our health is a factor of genetics, environment,
and exposure. Much more of our health is simply a matter of
the decisions we make about our health, such as: diet,
exercise, drugs, sleep, routine physicals, check-ups, etc.
7. The environment you live in.
Your house, the condition of your home, the town you live
in, the amenities available to you are all things you can
control, although some to a lesser degree (i.e., you decide
to tolerate them or move someplace else).
8. Your fiscal situation.
Having or not having enough money is a factor of what you
make versus what you spend.
9. Your time.
You choose how to "spend" your time and how much of your
time to give to various activities. You'll never get more
time than the 24 hours you're given each day.
10. Your legacy.
All your actions, words, and knowledge that you share while
you are living become the gift that you leave when you are
gone.
About the Author
Jim Allen is a professional life & business coach. For more ideas, subscribe to his free bi-weekly ezine, THE BIG IDEA, by sending a blank email to: SubscribeGA@CoachJim.com