Toddlers are busy little people. Focusing on a parent for even a minute can be hard for them. But in an emergency situation, not listening is not an option.
Sometimes it's absolutely critical that they listen, so here are some ideas to use to help them focus on you.
Use a keyword or phrase - Use a consistent signal that tells your child it's time to listen. Make it generic and make sure everyone in the household uses the same word. Make it fun! Try 'listen up' or 'yoo-hoo' or even a sound, like 'Bing!' Pretty soon they will use it on you, so get ready to start listening right back!
Eye contact - When you need your child to listen, make eye contact. Get on their level, hold their chin and use your catch phrase. Soon they will automatically look at you when you use your catch phrase.
Yes, Yes, Yes - not No, No, No. A parent's job is to set boundaries and keep their kids safe, and that means a lot of No's. To make listening more fun, something they want to do, make sure what they hear is positive. Try, 'Bing! Thank you for putting away your toys! Good boy!' or 'Bing! Good girl! You ate all your lunch!'
Turn the TV off - And the stereo, and the annoying talking toys! If your child can actually hear you, they will be able to listen. Eventually, you'll want your toddler to listen despite distractions, but at first make it easier and move away from the noise. When you're out in public, find a quieter spot, or cover your child's ears with your hands.
Quiet down - Sometimes when your child is ignoring you, your first instinct is to yell. Unfortunately, this doesn't work very well, plus it teaches your child that yelling is a good way to get attention. Instead, try using a quieter voice. If they ask you to repeat yourself, repeat it even quieter. Use your child's curious nature to lure them into listening.
Take a break - Before you talk to your child to take a few deep breaths, and encourage them to do the same. Even an 18 month old can do this. Raise their arms above their head and take a deep breath in, then lower them and breathe out. It's surprising how quickly they will imitate your breathing. They will focus all their attention on you while doing this. Then you can jump in with your catch phrase and start talking.
Be patient - Be patient with both your child and yourself. All parents know this is the hardest thing to do, but the most important.
Listening is one of the most important skills parents teach their toddlers. The daily challenges can be exasperating, but they are a good time to practice for when it really is important.